#1
1.You compare him to your ex.
He is not your ex. He is not the person who hurt you, cheated on you, or left you. Give him a chance to be seen and loved for who he is. Ex-boyfriends will come up. And from my perspective, exes should come up. I've always found that knowing a little bit about the ex and why that relationship didn't work out is healthy and informative. You can learn a lot about a person by listening to how they talk about their former partner. But when that "talk" makes it obvious that you are still carrying a torch for your ex-boyfriend or worse, you show symptoms of stalker-like aggressiveness, you won't be getting a call back. What you should be getting is therapy.
2.Telling him what to do
Are you constantly telling your man how to drive, how to dress, how to behave? Women are good at making improvements, but this highly sensitive area is off-limits. The most important thing to a Martian is doing a good job. Question his competence and you'll not only hurt him, but you'll meet a wall of resistance. Instead of telling him what to do, try to ask for his opinion. Martians thrive in an environment where they are the experts, so help him be the expert. Instead of saying, "Honey, you should do this." Ask his opinion, "Honey what do you think of this?" This allows him to share his thoughts and you get him involved in a conversation about whatever issue is on your mind. This simple trick is how you can help bring about improvements in your man without telling him what to do!
#2
3. You criticize him.
We all screw up from time to time. It's only human. If you're unhappy with something he says or does, it's okay to tell him. But, be careful with how you word it.You're saying he isn't grown-up. He isn't competent. He can't handle things on his own. That's offensive. This known as mothering, it makes it difficult for him to see you in a romantic way! Instead trust him to handle his own issues and when he doesn't let him deal with the repercussions. When he needs your help he'll be sure to ask.
4.You nag him.
Nagging doesn't motivate a man (or anyone) to do what you want. It's annoying. It turns a guy off. Instead, make a clear request. For example Parental introductions are a major step. Nothing puts the exclamation point on the statement, "We're a couple!" quite like meeting mom and dad. And most dudes are not down for that with just a few dates logged in. Don't push it comes off as desperate and manipulative, especially within the first few weeks of dating.
#3
5. Thinking Negatively
This isn't referring to genuine concerns about your relationship or sharing how you feel; it refers to the negative questions and statements that try to elicit a response. For example: "Why don't you tell me you love me anymore?" or "I bet you are going to break up with me."
Instead of trying to "fish" for information, just ask him. If you want a man to be straightforward, honest and transparent, then act the same way.
6. CLAIM-STAKING
You're not a couple until you're a couple! Four dates in and you're changing your Facebook relationship status? That sound you hear is the screeching rubber and a sonic boom as that guy cracks the sound barrier trying to get away from you. Have "the talk" about where the relationship stands at some point, but give yourself and him the time and space to enjoy the launch of this blossoming romance. It'll all happen in time. Or it won't.
7. Not Having Your Own Life
I see way too many people getting involved in relationships too quickly and investing emotions too quickly when they don't yet know the person fully.
Don't start having your life revolve around someone you met a month ago. You've lived a long time on your own just fine, so don't keep yourself from doing what you desire.
When you over invest you give your power away. It's easy to start the habit of placing yourself second to others and not setting the proper boundaries.
Live your own life with your own friends, career, dinners and events, etc. A man who is really interested in you will be open to compromising on doing things you enjoy.
#4
8. Overanalyzing Every Word (or Close to it!)
Typically, a man can say or do something without much thought. On the other hand, women tend to spend hours discussing the nuances in what a man said or did with a girlfriends. They will break down every part of the communication. Was it a text? Did it have a smiley face? What time did you text? How many texts that day? etc.
I know it's hard not to overthink things when you're dating since you don't always know where a man stands, especially since some of them aren't good at communicating their feelings and emotions.
If he didn't contact you today or didn't make plans far enough in advance, just go with the flow. He's probably busy or having a bad day or week. You don't know.
Obsessing with your girlfriends won't get you any closer to the solution. You'll end up confronting him with your overdrawn conclusions, getting mad and driving him towards the nearest exit.
9.Pleasing you is what pleases him
Many women are unaware of what really turns men on in bed. One of his biggest turn-on's is knowing he is giving pleasure to you. He wants to see you aroused, excited, fulfilled. So, instead of worrying about pleasing him Let him please you. When you receive the secrets of successful relationships, you'll learn to communicate your desires and other secrets to great sex!
10.Reeking Of Desperation and trying to change him
Neediness is a major turnoff. It shows that you're insecure, have low self-esteem and that you'll need constant reinforcement.
If he's out with friends, leave him be. Don't go around checking social media to see what's going on.
Trying to change someone is not recipe for a happy and healthy long-term relationship.
Would you want someone else to do that to you?
