18 Y/o Pretends To Have Girlfriend To Make Women Comfortable

Redditor u/aemceo had people wondering if he had hacked the social code or simply executed the worst idea of all time.

According to OP however his methods have been working out well for him…so far.

The 18 year old claimed that he had “been telling girls this because it seems they want nothing to do with me.”

He said that he had been noticing hesitation in women when he would approach them for conversation. He said that he was often frustrated for them to think he was hitting on them.

This is where he realised that women were far more receptive to him when he mentioned that he had a girlfriend.

“Any time I interact with women, I can pick up on their hesitation / lack of friendliness when they’re talking to me. But whenever I mention somewhere that I have a girlfriend, they immediately become much more open, friendly, and receptive to whatever I have to say. It’s really frustrating having women think I’m hitting on them, when sometimes I’m just asking if the seat at the library next to them is taken.”

He then shared an incident where he sat beside a woman at a Starbucks only for her to become comfortable when he mentions his ‘girlfriend’.

“A few days ago, I went to a Starbucks to do work. I go sit on the long bench spanning the wall— I ask this girl if the spot next to her is taken. She says, “No.” (Cool !) I start conversation asking her what’s her drink. “Coffee.” With a side eye. Oh wait I know how to fix this: “You got any plans for Valentine’s? My girlfriend and I are long distance, so we’re scratching our heads”, and boom, we talk a range of topics over the next 10 minutes.”

He said that while he didn’t have a girlfriend, getting one wasn’t his priority and that he just wanted to make friends and was happy with himself.

While come people in the comments lauded his ingenuity, others were not so keen on his methods.

One user said that most people don't wish to start conversations with strangers in public.

"Bruh. Tbh. If a stranger sat next to me and started trying to chat me up about random shit, I wouldn't want to talk to them either. You're obviously a social person, but not everyone is. I hate to tell you, but sometimes you can't trust some random's motives. This tact obviously works for you, so do your thing and don't take it personally."

reddit/NativeTwotWaffle

Another user said that if the goal was to make friends then starting with a lie wasn't the best strategy.

"I mean im glad this works, but if you want to actually talk to these people long term and form friendships/relationships with them, lying to them isn't the best start"

reddit/Jumpy-Ad6630

"In all the situations you mentioned it sounds like your talking to random chicks in public. Maybe they don't want to talk."

reddit/dflame45

Others said the same thing and that being in public wasn't an invite for conversation.

"Sorry, but if I'm getting coffee it's because I do not want to talk to anyone. It's not a male vs female thing. I want coffee and I want to gtfo. Same with shopping or any other random daily chore. If I wanted to talk and meet people Id join a club or group to meet people. Leave me and my coffee in silent bliss, respectfully."

reddit/MrsFirno

This user couldn't understand the end goal. That while OP was able to get a conversation out of them, any relationship beyond them was bound to have an awkward moment.

"But like what's the end goal?

Imagine telling these women down the line "HEY yeah I actually dont have a girlfriend I lied to trick you into lowering your guard so I could bond with you because im not creepy im not no""

reddit/CovidChrimbo