Bride 'Upset And Mad' After Being Asked To Return Borrowed Dress Despite Disinvitng The Person Who Owns It

Posted by Sama in Relationships On 14th October 2021
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This woman took to Reddit to share a messy family situation where her wife got uninvited by her sister-in-law's family because of their conservative beliefs. Pissed off at the disrespect, OP decided to take back the wedding dress that she had initially borrowed to the sister-in-law and took to Reddit to help make an assessment of this situation.

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The woman shared that despite being uninvited to her brother's wedding, the bride still expects her to let her borrow her wedding dress and asked Reddit to help make sense of the entire situation. 

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The OP wrote that when the wedding invitation came, it didn't include her wife. So she asked her sister-in-law the reason. Apparently, the bride revealed that her parent has already been giving her tough time for inviting her, as they don’t like the couple “for obvious reasons”.

Despite this, the bride was “mad” when she asked for her wedding dress to be returned to her before the wedding.

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Posting on the Am I The A**hole subreddit, the OP explains that she and her sister-in-law share a good bond and have the same sense of style.

However, her sister-in-law's family likes to act as if OP and her family are less.  

When her sister-in-law said she liked her wedding dress, the Redditor was more than happy to lend it to her for her big day.

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But OP was left shocked after the wedding invitation came for her only.

She said: “I called my sister-in-law to ask, and she tells me her parents were giving her hell for inviting me and my wife because they don’t like us for ‘obvious’ reasons and after a lot of fighting they agreed that I come alone since I’m the groom’s sister, but not bring my wife.”

Sister-in-law then apologized and explained that her parents are paying for the wedding. Although the bride’s parents “messed with the entire guest list”, the Redditor said she wouldn’t go unless her wife goes, too.

She wrote: “She got upset, telling me to let it go, but I refused and she ended up taking back the invitation saying she was sorry she just didn’t want any drama at her wedding.”

“I said ‘fine, no hard feelings’ and asked my brother to send my dress back to my place. My sister-in-law was stunned after she found out I took the dress back. She came over crying begging me to let her have it since she’s not the one with the budget and her parents told her to pay for her own wedding dress but she has no money.

“She said she loved my dress and promised to take care of it and return it but I refused.”

She went on: “My parents got involved, telling me to let her have it and reminded me of how strong our bond is but I said it clearly wasn’t as strong as I thought it was because she let her parents exclude me and my wife from the wedding.”

OP writes that she isn't angry but she just doesn't want to lend her dress after this disrespect.

She added that her sister-in-law is “mad” and seemed to be hoping she would change her mind by texting her every day in a bid to “pressure” her into lending her the dress.

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Internet supported OP 

Reddit users labeled the situation NTA and supported the OP in her decision, with one commenter writing: “If your wife isn’t ‘good’ enough to be invited for obvious reasons, the dress you married her in isn’t either.”

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One comment called her sister-in-law a choosing beggar, and questioned the sister-in-law’s gall to “sh*t on your sexuality and marriage, and then feel entitled to one of the most personal symbols of that in your own wedding dress that you married your wife in.”

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Another Reddit user wrote: “Choices have consequences. Your SIL [sister-in-law] is choosing to not have you and your wife at the wedding. The consequence of that is she doesn’t get to use your wedding dress.”

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