Bride Refuses To Let Twin Sister Be a Bridesmaid

For the most part, weddings can be a lot of fun but the beast of family politics often rears its ugly head at times like these. This Redditor asked on r/AITA whether they were wrong for not wanting to include their twin sister in the wedding.

Reddit/AdAgitated1763, weddingideasmag

"I (25f) have a fraternal twin sister and am getting married next fall.

We were very close growing up until high school. She was an outgoing bubbly cheerleader and I was a shy nerdy bookworm, so she ditched me for the popular kids. She didn't actively pick on me but she'd stand by with her head down and do nothing when they bullied me."

Things however came to a head in their relationship at their sweet 16, when their sister offered them $100 to not attend.

Reddit/AdAgitated1763, maggieblogassets

"When we turned sixteen she had a big bash but I didn't have any friends so didn't want to try and have a party, our parents were making her include me but she discreetly offered me $100 to pretend I was sick, I took the money bc I really didn't want to go to a party where I'd at best be ignored or worse picked on."

OP however finally had the chance to shine and create her own family when she moved away for college.

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"We went to separate colleges across the country from each other, she tried to keep in touch but I ignored her because i was very traumatized at losing my sister/best friend. I would be polite to her at home during school breaks but kept her at arms length."

Now that they're getting married, they're adamant they don't want their sister in the wedding.

Reddit/AdAgitated1763, bustle

"Anyway I don't want her to be a bridesmaid (let alone maid of honor, my parents thought it'd be a good "compromise" to have her just be a regular bridesmaid). My "big" from my sorority will be my MOH and my fellow "littles" who had the same big will be my bridesmaids."

They relented on inviting their twin to the wedding but that is where their generosity ended.

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"I reluctantly said she could be a guest at the wedding but not a bridesmaid (if it were entirely up to me I wouldn't invite her at all but that would cause more drama in my family than it's worth)."

The twin got emotional over the bride's reaction saying that byegones should be byegones.

Reddit/AdAgitated1763, minted

"I told them "but what would other people think if she was seen with me?" She cried (she never apologized, she just thinks bc it was so long ago I should let bygones be bygones because she was young and immature) and my parents agree with her."

OP however stood their ground saying that while these things were byegones for others, for OP they had to deal with it for years in therapy.

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"But I had to be in therapy for years because of her, why should I have someone as a bridesmaid who thinks they're better than me?"

Redditors came to OPs defense. One said, "Nta, honestly if you are in therapy be strict with your parents and tell them she is uninvited. Is it really worth it to have someone like that on your happiest day to date? Imo, just use your shiny spine and offer her 100$ to say she was sick and not come."

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While another added, "She's lucky you don't offer her $100 to pretend she's sick on your wedding day."

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