Bridezilla Rules That Were So Horrible, Brother Decided to Skip The Wedding

We've all heard stories of brides going off the deep end but this one just takes the cake.

This brother shared a story onto Reddit, asking if he would be the asshole if he decided not to attend his own sister's wedding.

"So, i'm in the middle of a shitstorm and need some advice on if i'm wrong.

My sister is getting married in less that 3 weeks. I haven't been involved in the planning as I have my own life but from what my mom has relaid to me it's been a nightmare. My sister want's a "fancy" wedding and is micro-managing everything. I have no idea how normal this is but from what i've heard she broke down crying when her fiance bought the wrong shade of white napkins. Her and both my and the grooms parents have invested a lot of money into this too the tune of over 50k."

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While he thought the wedding itself was a bit much, he kept his opinion to himself until he received an email detailing her demands for the day.

This included not being allowed to speak to the bride or the groom.

"In my opinion I think the whole ordeal is ridiculous but it's not really my place to say anything. At least until yesterday. A email was sent out to everyone invited to the wedding with "attendance requirements". These requirements were a joke. Some of them were just nonsensical like what color ties are and aren't allowed or that no one can talk to the wife or groom alone."

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There were other more insane demands such as no facial hair, madatory hair cuts, large value gifts and a prompt boot if people didn't comply.

"But some were absurd like the fact that no one is supposed to take pictures except the photographer for the whole event, no facial hair will be allowed or you will not be pictured, or that any women with shoulder length or longer hair must have it cut or wear it in a pony tail. The worst though were the "gift requirements". According to the email a gift of 300$ value or more MUST be given (or $250 cash) or you will not be allowed into the venue. The email also ends with "Those who choose not to follow these rules will be asked to leave. Please think of the bride and groom's wishes during this stressful time"

Her brother couldn't believe the demands and took to Reddit to ask if he was missing something and was thinking of not even going to the wedding because of how ridiculous the email was.

"This is a joke, right? Like I can understand micromanaging but that's just absurd. I called my mom to make sure this was not a late April fools joke and it was real. I told her that I won't be going because of this. That was wrong apparently because my sister has been blowing me up saying that I'm being selfish and that i'm ruining "her day:. My parents agree with her and say i'm being an asshole. My parents have told me that they will pay for my gift but I still think that all of these rules are a joke.

Would I be an ass if I skipped out on the wedding?"

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Redditor's were quick to assuage his doubts and assured him that he was not the asshole.

"NTA I would not go. 'Since my attendance at your wedding comes with a price tag, and it's clear you value gifts, more than guests, count me out for both. Have a lovely wedding.'"

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People understood some basic requirements, but the timeline and scale of demands flummoxed everyone.

"NTA: I understand the color coordination, but that's about it. Everything else, to me, is over the top. The gift requirement would be a no go for me, as well. Your sister is incredibly irresponsible for sending this out only 3 weeks before her wedding."

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Some said that with demands like these, it was likely that most people wouldn't attend.

"NTA. This is how you end up with an empty wedding. I can understand the color requirements for clothing but hair/facial hair...no speaking to them as individuals...minimum gift requirements....no photography? Come the fuck on. Someone has control issues ffs"

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One redditor had a more realistic take saying that while she was being a totaal bridezilla, missing a wedding would have larger repercussions that OP needed to be prepared for.

"NTA, that's waaaay over the top.

Just keep in mind this may lead some family members to hold a grudge for a long time."

OP replied,

"That's my biggest fear. My parents are more sad than anything that I don't want to go. I might go for their sake."

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We don't know how the actual day went but it's safe to say that other people weren't happy with these demands either.