Divorce Lawyers Share The Most Common Traits That Couples Say Are Unique To Them

#1

These are common points that divorce lawyers who share the most common things that most couples think are unique to them.

When cheating is involved, the client will often bring in mountains of photographs, text message printouts, bank statements showing where cash was withdrawn, etc. They need the paralegal to understand how awful this is and they want her to go stakeout their soon to be cheating ex. Cheating is insanely common.

Her standard reply is always: "Yes, I understand. Yes, I have seen hundreds of pictures and thousands of text messages. Yes, he/she is terrible for doing this to you". This is always met with, "But you don't understand, this is the worst thing that has ever happened."

She said"My mom's a divorce lawyer and I asked her, and she said that most people who she works with seem to think they are unique with "how much of an jerk their ex is"

#2

Divorce isn't rocket surgery, but almost everyone tries to make it that way.

Not so much about what do my clients think is unique, but something she've noticed: Only the rarest of the rare client can understand how they are super illogical when it comes to their divorce.

#3

The couples think their spouse is the worst ever and that their divorce is the most difficult ever.

Her most common answer to their on and on rants came to be: "This is costing you about $5 a minute and we can make better use of my time. Besides, you're the one who married him."

#4

At least in Maryland people assume because the spouse was cheating they will be able to get more money in alimony from the judge then they would have gotten otherwise.

#5

There are two main areas She has seen people are delusional about a divorce: Kids an Assets.

She stated "With kids, everyone screams about how much of a dick their spouse is and how the kids just absolutely hate that person. 9 times out of 10, the kids just want to move on and get back into a normal routine. They don't care a whole lot about the faults of each parent."

With assets, most people don't realize that being married really is a partnership and that there are ways other than earning income that a spouse contributes to the marital "pot". Nearly without fail, the higher-earning spouse is adamant that the court will be shocked by how little their spouse did and how there is no chance in hell their assets are going to be divided 50/50.

#6

She often receives warnings from clients about how "clever" or "smart" their spouse is and to be careful as to not let them manipulate her.

She said"In reality the other spouse has never been very clever at all. They just had power over my client that they've built through long term emotional and psychological abuse. The client is usually pretty delighted to finally see their abuser get ripped to shreds in court"