This dad was left livid after he learned about his daughter bullying a class fellow with cancer. The daughter not only bullied the girl but also pulled her wig. Shocked by his daughter's lack of empathy and compassion, the dad decided to teach her an equally harsh lesson. However, his way of method didn't really sit well with the family members or other people on Reddit.
Furious Dad Shaves Off Daughter's Hair After She Bullies A Girl With Cancer And Pulls Off Her Wig
Parenting is some hard stuff. While all parents work hard on raising their kids into decent adults the bitter reality about life is that this not always works like that. As the kids are growing they develop their own minds and thinking and while it is easy to teach them things and the difference between right and wrong at a young age, it only becomes difficult as they grow older.
In a now-deleted post on Reddit, this dad took to the platform to share the actions of his dad that left him disgusted to the core.
Dad shares that he has full custody of his daughter, a 16-year old teenager. Recently, he learned that his daughter bullied someone in class. That, someone, was another girl from her class who is a cancer patient and his daughter made fun of her bald head and pulled off her wig.
Absolutely disgusted, dad gave his daughter two choices to pick one from. One that she throws away all her electronics and never expect him to buy her anything ever again. Second, she gets her head shaved just like the girl she bullied. She continues to go to school with a bald head till she grows her hair back.
Dad shares that everyone around him is criticizing him for going overboard and the mom of the girl says he has gone ballistic.
"I came up with the punishment because I thought my daughter had an extreme lack of empathy for the girl she bullied," he says. And added that her actions felt all the more personal because he lost his mother to breast cancer when he was in his 20s.
"My daughter knows this and that is what really disgusted me with her behavior," he says. "It demonstrated a complete and utter lack of empathy. I hoped that her going to school bald and walking a mile in the other girl's shoes would teach her a lesson."
Dad shares that he knows he is NTA in this situation. Because he wants to teach his daughter a lesson on learning to become compassionate. However, what concerns him is if he went overboard in the situation?
Some people pointed dad that he went overboard with punishment
"Your daughter sucks for bullying that girl, obviously. But you went too far with this punishment," one person wrote in the comments.
"Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully," someone else added. "I seriously doubt this is the first time you used abuse and humiliation to 'teach her a lesson.'"
And another person wasn't afraid to tell it like it is, "There’s a term for what you did. It’s called child abuse," the person wrote. "Taking away her electronics would have been an appropriate punishment. Grounding her would have been an appropriate punishment. Disrespecting her right to bodily autonomy and humiliating her is not an appropriate punishment. She’s unlikely to learn from it and if anything it risks perpetuating a cycle of bullying."
Others lauded dad for taking a strict punishment with dad
"The punishment was absolutely harsh, probably harsher than I would have done in your place (I can't say for certain, I'm not a parent). But she will see what kind of impact actions like hers have on the victim and that will teach her a very important lesson. If teaching her that lesson makes you the (expletive), perhaps the world needs a few more (expletives)," the person wrote.
"Everyone on here obviously has no clue how (expletive) kids can be," another person added. "I support your decision completely. You're her parent so you have every right to do this, it's not abusive, it's real life. If she's comfortable attacking someone for something they have no choice over she needs to see how it feels. Kids don't learn from compassion as much as we want them to, I'm not saying have no compassion but this isn't a situation where sitting them down and explaining the issue will suddenly make them a better person. And how is this punishment cruel or abusive... guess what... hair grows back, crazy I know, unlike the person she humiliated. Everyone here needs to get some perspective."
"This is an appropriate punishment for that behavior that will hopefully result in one child being compassionate and thinking empathetically before they start bullying people," added someone else.
Talking about receiving criticism from people, dad says that even if people think he went overboard, his opinion doesn't change.
The dad tells us that he doesn't mind if people disagree with his method. "As far as the backlash, I'll be honest and say it hasn't changed my opinion," he explains. "Most of the comments called it abuse. I really can't take that seriously, it's just a haircut and her hair will grow back."
He adds that although he learned that he's "clearly the minority in that subreddit, (...) I really didn't anticipate that level of vitriol. I can't complain though since the entire point of that subreddit is to judge other people, so I don't really mind."
As for his daughter, the dad says that she "is understandably upset at me." But the teen has yet to show "any remorse for her actions unfortunately and no apology in sight, (she's) definitely angry at me."
"If she shows genuine remorse I'd get her a temporary wig of some kind," he continues, "but as I say she hasn't done that yet."