Girlfriend Furious With Boyfriend After He Refuses To Pay For Her Family’s Christmas Gifts

Posted by Sama in Relationships On 23rd December 2021
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Imagine being in a relationship where you are paying for 100% of expenses but your partner expects you to do more. Not fair right? This is what happened to this man who shares that he is already paying for all expenses as his girlfriend is a full-time student but now she is asking him to pay for her friends and family's gifts too. OP says he has made it clear that he is not comfortable in doing so and now the girlfriend is upset with him. Go through the post and share with us your opinion in the comments section.

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Christmas is a festive time for everyone to enjoy and exchange gifts with love and respect. However, let's face the truth. This is easier said than done. Sometimes it is the family issues, other times it is the relationship issues, and when both these issues are sorted then comes the friendship issues. 

This man is facing his fair share of Christmas issues after he refused to pay for his girlfriend's gifts for her family and friends. 

The 28-year-old took to Reddit to seek much-needed reassurance after being slammed as an “a**hole for ruining Christmas” by his partner’s sister.

The distressed boyfriend explained that he and his girlfriend Lauren have been dating for two years and recently moved in together. He writes that he works and is responsible for both their living expenses after she moved in with him and also because she is a full-time student.

This year the duo collectively decided against Christmas presents this year to set aside a little money for the future instead.

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However, things took a dramatic turn when Lauren asked him to pay for her family and friends' Christmas gifts.

He explained: “She said that before she went to school full-time, she used to get really nice Christmas gifts for her family/nephews because she had a full-time job. Her friends do a fancy gift exchange where they all buy each other gifts.”

He declined and pointed that it wasn’t something he felt comfortable doing.

Subsequently, his girlfriend was very upset with him.

“I don’t want to spend my money on gifts for her friends/family,” he explained on the forum. “And If she wants to buy them gifts, then she needs to get a temporary job or something.”

She came back and positioned it as “a loan.” Again, the man declined, saying that he wouldn’t “get paid back.”

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“I also tell her that I’m not comfortable loaning my girlfriend money because it leads to issues,” he added.

Things got even messier when he received a call from Lauren’s sister. She calls him an “a**hole” and mentions that Lauren’s parents are upset too.

“I felt bad, but I don’t want to do this either,” he concluded.

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Reddit users supported the OP

Redditors took to the comment section to label the man NTA and assure him that he is not villain in this scenario and it is clearly the girlfriend who has created unfair situation for both of them.

“He set a healthy boundary and she went behind his back and badmouthed him to her friends and family simply because she didn’t like the boundary,” one said. “Which is not only two-faced, but also manipulative af.”

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Another suggested that Lauren’s parents and sister should loan her the money if “it’s so important for them to get gifts.”

“If Lauren wanted to buy gifts Lauren should have gotten a job,” one user candidly highlighted. “Also, why wait till the last minute like this to even bring it up? You both already agreed to not do gifts, but she was still expecting that you would buy gifts anyways.”

Another added: “Plenty of people get temp work during the holidays in order to be able to pay for gifts. Also, she could make presents (like cookies or a little craft or something).”

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