Her Boyfriend Broke Up With Her Because She Got Her Period On His Couch

#1

The issue? Her "friend" revealed himself to be more of a "jackass" after refusing to understand that she didn't purposely bleed all over his couch when she had her period.

#2

I'm sorry, what?

I mean, I know boys are notoriously squeamish when it comes to subject of period blood, but this seems to be taking the whole thing a little too far.

#3

The Redditor shared her full account of the story, and the whole thing sounds pretty outlandish (and un-gentlemanly), to be perfectly honest.

#4

She says that she's been friends with her male friend name Jake for roughly three years, and that he recently let her crash on his couch.

#5

Here's her story:

Well Reddit, I'm pretty mortified about posting this, but I'm so utterly confused by this incident that I need some fresh perspectives. Sorry for the length.

#6

So anyway Jake and I have been close friends for about three years We don't hang out as often as we used to anymore, but it's still great catching up and hitting the bars with each other every once in a while. Our relationship is completely platonic. Jake is gay.

#7

Six months ago Jake and I went out for a night on the town. He offered me his couch to crash on for the night so I could sober up before driving home in the morning. I thanked him for the offer and I crashed.

#8

Eight a.m. arrives and I get a frantic call from my friend who's crying incomprehensibly over the phone. I'm pretty concerned so I shoot Jake (who hasn't woken up yet) a quick text saying that I needed to rush out of his apartment, but thanks again for letting me stay over. I hop in my car, drive over to my friend Hannah's place. It turns out that she has had a messy fight with her boyfriend and they've just broken up, so I just hang out with Hannah for a bit and comfort her.

#9

Well, you can probably guess what happened next. She had had her period, didn't notice, and left without cleaning up or letting Jake know about the state of his upholstery.So Jake probably reached out and told her of the embarrassing situation. They probably laughed about it, and figured out how to clean everything up, right?

Haha, nah. Still at her other friend's house, she finally realizes she had her period, but nothing else goes according to the script.

#10

Then I go to the bathroom after feeling "off." It turns out my period's come a week early, and my underwear had a bit of blood on it. Enough to be noticeable, but not an awful amount. I sheepishly tell Hannah what just happened, she laughs and hands me a tampon. I assume that my period has just started and after checking around Hannah's floor, where we had been sitting, to make sure there weren't any stains, I go right back to comforting her.

#11

So maybe it should have occurred to me to ask, "Jake, did I leave any stains on your couch?" at this point. It didn't, because I was too focused on Hannah. But LUCKILY for me, about an hour later Jake sends me a stunning barrage of texts calling me disrespectful and disgusting for bleeding on his couch and not telling him. I obviously had no idea. So what do I do? Take responsibility for bleeding, offer to clean the couch or pay for its cleaning or even to replace the entire couch itself, apologize, and tell him I just hadn't realized I had bled on it because I hadn't even anticipated my period coming early. Jake never responds.

#12

And then he starts reaching out to mutual friends saying that he wants things between the two of them to be officially over.

#13

This is where it, to me, just gets bizarre. Jake tells a bevy of our mutual friends that he wants to end our friendship with me because of "my disrespectful actions." He shows them the texts he sent me. According to my mutual friends, what they told him upon seeing the texts was something like "Jake, we actually can't believe you would send that to her. You sound insane in these texts, and she obviously didn't do it on purpose. You are being an asshole." Jake apparently got huffy with them and said, "really? You think I'm being irrational here?" I think, maybe my girlfriends are being overly sympathetic because they're women. I want to understand why Jake would be so upset. I tell my boyfriend and his friends what happened. They are also all aghast and think Jake is crazy.

#14

She tried apologizing to him in 10 separate texts which did little to curb Jake's anger. For a full two months after period-gate he wouldn't even say hello to her in public. He finally came around about 6 months later and is nice enough to her, but he still has our poor poster removed from all his social media accounts.

#15

The Redditor says that she's vastly confused at being cut out of her former friend's life, and wishes she had a better explanation.

#16

So I'm sad. Sad about the end of the friendship, but also justconfused. This was so inexplicable. I keep racking my head for times I was a bad friend that would justify Jake's behavior I'm sure I have been, I'm not perfect and I recognize that and would like to work on it but am I still right by saying this was completely out of nowhere? Tbh though, after this, I'm not trying to be friends again. I just want some insight from other people, since Jake refuses to have a conversation with me.

#17

Comments on her heartfelt and befuddled post ranged from sympathy.Some thought Jake became embarrassed of his own behavior, and chose to back out of the friendship out of shame. Others just said, simply, "Lol what? How much does he hate women? Please stay away from this creep."

#18

However, the majority of responses to her thread all essentially said the same thing: Girl, he should be apologizing to you, not the other way around.

The Redditor said that she appreciated everyone's support, and wasn't going to let a rude friend make her feel like an assh*le just because she happened to be going through her cycle while couch-surfing at his apartment:

#19

I would hope that Jake is embarrassed at his own behavior because that would at least suggest to me that he knows that his reaction was out of bounds. But the more I think about it the more it stings. I feel that I am the one owed a sincere apology now.

#20

Hopefully Jake finds the non-menstruating friends that he's looking for and hopefully he finds a health textbook too, so he can learn that having your period isn't a voluntary action.