How To Flirt With A Guy Over Text

1.Keep your texts short. Texting has limitations due to phone screen size.

You can usually only send so many characters per text, and it can be difficult to try and read long text messages on a phone. For this reason, you need to make every word you text count by ensuring that all texts concise and to the point. Avoid texting about anything that doesn't apply to you or the other person.[2]

Use shortcuts whenever possible, such as LOL (Laugh Out Loud), KOTC (Kiss On The Cheek) or BRB (Be Right Back).

2.Personalize texts.

Text messages can feel impersonal because they lack the visual, touch or auditory cues between people that occur in person. Refer to the guy in your text by his name or a nickname, so he knows the text is meant only for him. Recall a time you spent together, and mention an inside joke between the two of you. This can make the texts feel a little more intimate.

Don't mass text. This is an extremely impersonal way to communicate and shows that you didn't make the effort to send a personal message.

Use terms like "us" and "we" in your texts to create a sense that you two are a thing. For example, "*wink* We make a great team."

3.Don’t be boring.

Texting loses its excitement when you don't put some effort into making the message interesting or exciting. You want your messages to stand out over the ones from other girls. Say something that will make him want to reply, like, "I want a rematch on that Mario Kart game."[3]

Be intriguing and subtle, and make the message about both of you. You want to make the guy curious so he asks for more information. Say something like, "The sky is beautiful out here, wish you were here," or "I feel great right now, hope your evening is going as well as mine," to lead him to ask where you are or what you are doing.

Don't wait around for him to text "hi". Work up the courage to start up the conversation yourself. He might be just as nervous as you are and will probably react positively to your initiative. If you want to be bold, say something flirty like "Hey cutie!"

4. Ask questions.

People like to talk about themselves. Once you start the conversation, keep it going by asking questions about his interests, past history and future goals. Great conversationalists know that the key to enjoyable conversation is to keep their partner engaged.

These questions can be anything from "How was your day?" to "What kind of movies do you like?"

Ask questions related to what you're talking about at the moment. For example, if you started the conversation asking what the English homework is, try asking him what other classes he's taking and which are his favorite.

Ask open-ended questions. Simple "yes-or-no" questions usually don't elicit a very long response and won't tell you much about his personality. Instead of asking "Do you like our English teacher?", try asking "What do you think of our English class?" or "Who do you have for history?"

5.Find something in common with him, and mention it.

This is where things like his Facebook profile can come in handy. Maybe find a few things you both like and subtly mention one. Movies, TV shows, music, and sports are usually great choices since people tend to be very passionate about their choices in entertainment. Throw in a quick reference to a famous scene or lyric he'll probably catch on.

For example, if you both love the same band, ask him how he feels about a new single or which of their songs he likes the most.

If you guys disagree over something, don't worry. A playful debate over whether ‘'Parks and Rec'' or ‘'Community'' is better can be friendly and fun and you might be able to refer back to it later as an "inside joke."

6.Have a sense of humor.

People appreciate things that make them laugh. Humor makes texting a lot more entertaining and is more likely to keep your guy engaged. Try sharing jokes or being clever. He'll appreciate the effort.

Teasing creates intimacy without being too serious, allows you to both share a laugh and encourages positive feelings about your relationship. Find something about him that you can make fun of without hurting his feelings. For example, mention the time he said "peeling" instead of "feeling" or his giant feet.

If he teases you, play along but don't be afraid to joke that he owes you for hurting your feelings. For example, "Ouch! All my hopes and dreams have been crushed. The only thing that will make me feel better is if you take me out to see that movie you've been talking about."

7.Pick up on his cues.

The way that he's responding to your texts can tell you a lot about how he feels. If he seems to be responding to your texts fairly quickly (within a few minutes) and with decently long responses (a sentence or two), he is engaged in the conversation. If he's sending a lot of one-word texts or just barely answering your questions after a long time, he's probably not interested.

Make sure texting is equal between the two of you. Just like any other type of communication, texting shouldn't be one-sided. Your guy should be actively responding to each of your texts. Sending too many texts may come across as being desperate. On the other hand, letting him do all the texting will make you seem disinterested.

Don't send a bunch of "Did u get my text?" messages.[4]

8.Consider timing.

Send a text when your guy will be able to enjoy it the most. If he's at school or at a sports practice, then he won't be able to spend the time you want him to on your message or a reply. Go for common downtimes like early morning and late evening.

Sometimes sending a sweet or uplifting message can really be appreciated when he's under stress, so texting during work hours every now and then may be fine.[5]

Texting at night can be more intimate and invite flirting.[6]

9.Check texts before sending.

You will want to review your spelling and grammar to make sure your message isn't confusing. A lot of phones will have autocorrect features that will use the most common word choice when you start typing. If you don't pay attention, your message could be read completely different than you intended .

Use punctuation to add more to your message, for example (...) can signify something more is to come or that there is something undone or unsaid. It can be more flirty and suggestive than just a period. Keep exclamation points and question marks to a minimum so they don't become distracting.