The first step is to take it easy and try to figure out the real reasons behind your confrontation. It might be something complex like fear of abandonment or feeling taken for granted.
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#1 What are you actually fighting about?
The first step is to take it easy and try to figure out the real reasons behind your confrontation. It might be something complex like fear of abandonment or feeling taken for granted.
#2 Try to express your point in one sentence
Nonviolent communication helps a lot. Try to get to the core issue so that your partner actually understands your feelings.
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#3 Take responsibility
It's always good to own up to your part in the argument. This way you won't sound selfish and will probably set up the right environment for dialogue.
#4 Leave your ego aside
Something as simple as an apology can go a long way. However, don't apologize for things that you haven't done.
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#5 You don't need to be right all the time
We all feel the need to win arguments, but sometimes it just isn't worth it. After all, what would you prefer: being happy or being right?
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#6 Let your partner learn
Sometimes these fights are part of a learning process that your partner has to go through. Be patient, express your points but also listen carefully to his/her opinions.
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#7 Set boundaries
If you had a REALLY bad fight, it might be a good idea to set some boundaries so that it doesn't happen again. Try to come up with some agreements after your fight is over.
