‘Love Bombing’: Terrifying Technique Narcissists Use To Make You Fall In Love

Imagine meeting the perfect person. They shower you with gifts, and compliments and tell you how perfect the two of you are for one another. Until they take back all that love, start giving you the cold shoulder and suddenly harboring hate and resentment towards you.

According to Natalie Louise also known as @wanderlusqt, this is a common manipulation tactic.

In a now-viral video, she reveals the exact steps that manipulators and narcissists may take to love-bomb someone and make them fall in love. 

“This is how you manipulate someone by love-bombing them. Do not use this strategy on anyone.”

She said that she was sharing this dangerous technique so people would recognize the signs, “realize if it is happening to you, and know when to get out.” 

She says the manipulation occurs over a series of stages. 

“Stage one is the date.”

This is where the manipulator would go on a date and try to gauge if their target is someone who can be easily manipulated. 

The manipulator will then try to win their target over, ask them questions, and try to get to know them as well as they can. 

While on the surface these are all great signs for a new relationship, their motives aren’t as genuine. Instead of seeing if they’re compatible “they will shapeshift into that partner,” and become what they think their target wants.

The next stage is gifting.

This is where they will shower their partner with gifts. “Things that they know you will be head over heels for. The more gifts you receive, the more you trust them.”

They will also spend as much time with their target as they can. This is to make their target trusting and vulnerable. This is when their behavior will shift and they will start being hot and cold with their partner.

“Now that they know, ‘Well I have you wrapped around my finger. That’s when they’re like, ‘I’m gonna use you now and see if this works.”

They may suddenly change behavior or even disappear until they pop back into your life saying, “They wanna go on a date with you again,” and restarting the cycle of manipulation.

If the target is excited to see them again, it is confirmation that they’ve got you in their trap. This push-and-pull dynamic then becomes normal for the victim.

She says, “So that process goes back and forth multiple times until you become addicted to them.”

Comments revealed this was far more common than one would think. One user said, “My ex did exactly this to me. Came bk recently, then out of nowhere cut me off. It’s confused me but I’m done and it’s boring me now.”

One even admitted to doing this. “I’m that guy,” said a user named Pablo.