Man Who Fathered 96 Kids Resigns From Work To Track Them All Down

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A man who donated his sperm to help conceive 96 children has stopped working so he can locate and get to know all of them.

In order to visit some of his several children, 32-year-old Georgian software developer Dylan Stone-Miller has driven an incredible 9,000 miles this summer.

He first saw a picture of Harper, a toddler who was one of his biological children, and that's when everything began.

"I think of her as my first child," he told the Wall Street Journal.

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Stone-Miller first got to know Harper when she was just three years old, and from that point on, he made the decision to get close to as many of his children as he could.

He gave up his work to accomplish this, used his funds to pay for his new vocation, and has already gotten to know 25 of his biological children.

Although Stone-Miller had achieved a great deal, he disclosed: "I will never know for sure how many children I have."

Stone-Miller received the following note when he and his wife divorced in 2020: "I really hope you don’t feel violated in any way, but it’s Canadian Thanksgiving and I wanted to tell you how grateful my family is to you."

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The message was sent by Alicia Bowes, one of Harper's two mothers. Using social media and hints from the donor's documentation, she was able to locate her daughter's donor.

These hints included his initial name and the fact that his father worked as a forensic psychologist.

Following that, Stone-Miller discovered a picture of Harper on Bowes' Instagram page and contacted the mother to inquire about joining a Facebook community for parents called "Xytex 5186 Offspring," which was named after his sperm bank ID.

She then started another group of people who were interested, and after Stone-Miller informed them he was excited to meet their kids, the parents of 20 kids eventually responded.

"I wanted to watch the children grow up," he said.

Bowes, who granted Stone-Miller permission to come twice in the previous year, has since disclosed: "There are moments when it feels intrusive with Dylan.”

"It’s about us figuring out what boundaries are, as well as him figuring out his boundaries."

Talking about her daughter, she added: "I don’t want Harper to feel like she can call him anything.”

"He is not her dad. Period. If she were to say that in front of us, we would straight up say, 'Dylan is not your dad. He will never be your dad. You don’t have a dad. You have a donor'."

For Stone-Miller, who acknowledged that circumstance to be challenging: "It was hard to look my biological daughter in the eye and tell her I wasn’t her dad."

"We came on the scene when he was going through hard times," Bowes explained. "Being with the children gave him a renewed sense of purpose.”

"As we get to know him more, we all feel more comfortable. But my sense is he is going to feel more entitled, which can be problematic. We need to keep enough walls up to protect our girls and our family, but to make them permeable enough that he can come in."

To keep track of everything, Stone-Miller now maintains a spreadsheet containing his children's names, ages, birthdays, and the dates since he last saw or spoke with them.