Marrying your partner is a monumental moment in your life. You are committing to be by your significant other’s side through both good and bad times. It is a lifelong promise that you should give serious thought to before proposing. A great way to ensure you and your partner are meant to be is by assessing your relationship and the qualities it possesses.
Men Need To Know These Three Things Before Marrying A Woman
By
Teresa Thomerson in
Life Style
On 17th January 2016
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#1 Are you ready to care for her in sickness and health?
You're both going to get sick, sometimes terminally. This question puts your interests in perspective. If you truly love her, you'll be willing to stay with her through illness and aging. This question is revealing of a man's inclination toward sacrificial love. Sacrificial love means that the needs of your partner come before your wants. If you are willing to endure suffering for the good of your partner and for the strength of your relationship, you have something special that can withstand the test of time and the pressures of society.
#2 Do you have similar intellectual curiosity?
You really need to be on the same wave length here. One thing that can be devastating to a relationship is a difference in intellectual curiosity. Warm and fuzzy feelings may mask this discrepancy for a short time, and often even long enough for a couple to go through with marriage. But when the honeymoon goggles come off, noticing an intellectual gap can spell certain misery.
If you prize intellectual rigor, aren't content with face value, and need to dig deeper into truth, there is a wife out there who shares those same qualities. If you can see yourself banging your head against the wall and lamenting that you cannot have a proper philosophical discourse with your beloved, then seriously consider the arrangement.
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#3 What’s your lifestyle like?
Imagine your perfect day. Go from start to finish, and then retrace that same day with your future spouse. Your partner would want to share your perfect day with you, just as you would with her. Serious differences in lifestyle can be subtly overwhelming sources of tension between you and your spouse. If you are a fitness enthusiast and your wife is a couch potato, you'll be setting yourself up for disappointment when you wish she'd be active with you, or vise versa.
To go along with lifestyle: Is she neat or messy? Is she health conscious or no? Is she a night owl while you're an early riser? None of these amount to deal breakers by themselves, but when you ask these questions you get a broader picture of your compatibility as marriage partners.
Of course it is impossible to find someone who matches every little category you could possibly imagine. But it is important to discover your deal breakers and red flags now, because if you jump into a marriage and have children, you'll have no easy opportunity to simply back out and start fresh.
