Men Or Women: Therapist Reveals Which Gender More Likely To Cheat

Claudia Delgado is a registered therapist who 'specializes in working with individuals who have betrayed in their relationships.' She works with folks from California and Florida who contact her online.

She recently took to Reddit to share her trade secrets, stating at the beginning of her AMA (Ask Me Anything) that she believes infidelity has become 'easier' in the present world.

“Lots of marriages, unfortunately, deal with infidelity,” Delgado stated. “With the use of technology, cheating has become more accessible.

Many people are hurt during infidelity in a marriage. This includes children, the betrayed, extended family/friends, and often the person who cheated."

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“I provide a non-judgmental space to work through the root cause of the cheating, work through navigating relationships, assist with indecisiveness and/or shame and process the pain, both of cheater and pain caused by a cheater.

There are many reasons why some people cheat in a marriage. People need help through that journey.” 

Several users had queries for Delgado, including one who asked if she has witnessed more men or more women cheating based on her experiences and the people she's dealt with. “In my experience, I see more women,” Delgado replied. 

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Furthermore, she clarified that this did not necessarily imply it was a general norm, saying, "But that does not mean more women cheat."

Someone else inquired about the distinction between emotional and physical infidelity, as well as whether the 'method to healing' differed or faced the same challenges.

Delgado said: "I do work with people who have been in emotional affairs. The healing process is the same and I can add the emotional affairs tend to be more difficult as many times the cheater falls in love with the AP [affair partner]."

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The therapist stated that it is difficult to provide a specific success rate for marriages following an instance of cheating, but that it might be 'high' if the disloyal partner is 'remorseful for not just hurting their partner but also for the actual affair and the wronged partner is open to the healing process, which may be exceptionally painful. 

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She added: "People just don’t talk about it. A shame is associated these days with staying with someone who has cheated. Society says, 'Once a cheater always a cheater, or 'if you stay, the second time is your fault'. "So many people experience infidelity and quietly work really hard to come up on the other side. But this is when BOTH people are actively working on the relationship."

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