Mom Ask If She Is In The Wrong For Making Her Daughter Sleep Outside In A Tent After For Being Rude With A Homeless Man

With technology so advanced, the internet has made it a little bit easier for parents to discuss and seek support especially if they make a little bit harsh decision regarding their child's upbringing. 

This mother with the username u/coolestthrowaway4  took to Reddit to ask people if she messed up big time after making her daughter sleep in a tent as a punishment for verbally abusing a homeless man.

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Giving context behind her story mom shares that she has raised two teenage daughters on her own after their father's death. It was a struggle as they had to live by on their paychecks but she managed to make a decent success of herself.

Mom writes: 

I (34F) am a single mother to two girls, 'Jasmine' (16F) and 'Jessica' (14F). Their dad died when I was pregnant with Jess, and I had to work hard. We hit rock bottom, and I was barely making paycheque to paycheque but I managed to get a degree, become successful and we live well. Point is, I know how fucking hard it is to be at the bottom of society, and my daughters know this, which is why I was livid at my daughter's actions.

Yesterday, Jasmine showed me a video of Jessica cussing a homeless man out and telling him, 'stop asking me for money, you'd earn it yourself if you weren't so fucking lazy and spending what you earned on substances.' When the homeless man complained about the cold (we live in NE England), Jessica responded 'Yeah people camp for fun, even in December, you can't complain, you're living someone's holiday.' Fury was an understatement for what I felt, as I thought I had raised an empathetic daughter.

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Along with finding the homeless man and making her apologise and help pay for a hotel room for a night for him (she paid £20), as well as signing her up to volunteer at a food bank - I decided to take her up on her offer of sleeping outside. I locked her bedroom door so she couldn't go in, put a sign on it saying Closed for the holidays, pitched a tent in the garden and filled it with blankets and the sleeping bag I used when I was camping in Norway on a family holiday as a teen (aka really bloody thermal). I slept in the room closest to the garden for that night so I was nearby if anything was to go wrong. She was reluctant to do it, but chose it over the option of not having access to her phone until the Christmas holidays are over.

In the morning, she was crying about how horrible it was to wake up on a cold mat and get disrupted sleep due to birds. After comforting her, I asked her would she like to do that everyday like the homeless man. It struck a cord with her and she was crying over her actions, while even after the £20 she was rolling her eyes and her apology was not sincere. This afternoon, I came home from work to Jessica making a big meal to donate to the homeless people who live on the road near our house. I was proud of how she turned over a new leaf, and after taking the food to the people, my sister came over. Apparently, my nephew and Jessica were talking at school, and he asked her about her plans for the afternoon, and she said that she was going to cook for the homeless. My nephew asked what triggered that, and Jess told him everything, which he relayed back to his mum. My sister said that my punishment was too harsh, and just the £20 and the food bank would have done the trick, and I was acting irrationally due to my past. Now I'm second guessing myself. AITA?

OP is judged with one of the following comments:

• NTA – Not the A**hole
• YTA – You’re the A**hole
• NAH – No A**holes Here
• ESH – Everybody Sucks Here

Internet responds kindly to the mom and lauds her for doing a remarkable job on raising her children. People told her that her parenting hack is clever and much needed in today's world where the absence of empathy is evident. People graded her NTA and some even went as far as telling her that she is exemplary for good parenting. 

People told mom to not worry over her action and sometimes harsh action is the right way to go about and do the right thing.