Mother-In-Law Throws A Fit For Not Being Allowed To Attend Birth, Strangers Give Her A Befitting Response
On 7th March 2018
Being in labor is the toughest and scariest experience for every pregnant woman. At the time, a woman needs only her loved ones to be close to her, however, some relations feel they are entitled to be a part of it and even have the guts to throw a tantrum over it. This mother-in-law did the same but the befitting response she gets from the online community, we bet she didn't expect this coming.
#1 Toughest Part Of Pregnancy Is Labor
If you ask a mom what was the scariest and toughest part of her pregnancy, without hesitation the mom will tell you about labor. Being in labor is never easy. It's a scary, exciting and emotional experience which definitely leaves you exhausted till the end.
#2 Woman In Labor Is In Extremely Vulnerable State
Most importantly, a woman in labor is in an extremely vulnerable state, she is literally on display for the hospital staff. At the time, keeping the privacy of the patient is most important for the doctors and nurses. So it is the basic right of the woman to decide and choose who stays with her in the room and who should not.
#3 Julia Wants Only Her Mother And Husband To Be In The Room With Her
Julia, a first-time mom, decided that the only people she wanted with her during delivery were her mom and husband, Steven. However, Julia's decision did not sit well with her mother-in-law. She raised a point that why Julia won't be comfortable with her presence in the room.
#4 Steven's Mom Throws A Fit Over A Personal Issue
Steven's mom took to an advice column to ask help to convince her daughter-in-law to allow her in the room. However, the grandmother-to-be was given a befitting response by the columnist and online strangers.
#5 Wrote In An Advice Column
Julia's mother-in-law wrote in Slate‘s “Dear Prudence” column, the letter stated, "My son, Steven, and daughter-in-law, Julia, are expecting their first child and our first grandchild next month. I had what I thought was a good relationship with Julia, but I find myself devastated. Julia has decided only Steven and her mother will be allowed in the delivery room when she gives birth. I was stunned and hurt by the unfairness of the decision and tried to plead with her and my son, but Julia says she “wouldn’t feel comfortable” with me there."
The letter added, "I reminded her that I was a nurse for 40 years, so there is nothing I haven’t seen. I’ve tried to reason with Steven, but he seems to be afraid of angering Julia and will not help. I called Julia’s parents and asked them to please reason with their daughter, but they brusquely and rather rudely got off the phone. I’ve felt nothing but heartache since learning I would be banned from the delivery room."
#6 She Thinks She Is Being Treated Unfair
She further wrote, "Steven told me I could wait outside and I would be let in after Julia and the baby are cleaned up and “presentable.” Meanwhile, Julia’s mother will be able to witness our grandchild coming into the world. It is so unfair. I’ve always been close to my son, but I no longer feel valued. I cannot bring myself to speak to Julia. I’m being treated like a second-class grandmother even though I’ve never been anything but supportive and helpful. How can I get them to see how unfair and cruel their decision is?"
#7 The Post Garnered Immediate Social Media Attention
A writer named Nicole Cliffe shared the “Dear Prudence” letter on Twitter, where it got a lot of attention. The letter garnered immediate attention from the public and the online strangers were horrified after reading the letter. Strangers bashed the grandmother-to-be for throwing tantrum over such a petty issue and letting her ego and pride come in between, while what Julia is doing is nothing wrong. She deserves privacy and her decision should be respected. One person commented, "IT IS NOT THE EQUIVALENT OF A GRADE SCHOOL BALLET RECITAL, IT IS A PRIVATE MEDICAL PROCEDURE."
Another user commented, "I will never understand why some people are so insistent on witnessing the literal birth. Just... why. No."
#8 Steven's Mom Received A Shut Up Call From Not Only The Strangers But Also From The Prudence
Prudence replied to the letter saying, "You can’t! You shouldn’t! You are entirely in the wrong! I say this in the hopes that, after the initial flush of indignation fades, you will be braced and supported by the realization that you have been acting badly and that you need to change. It’s difficult to admit when one’s been wrong, but there’s nothing quite so clarifying as figuring out how to do better. Your daughter-in-law is giving birth, which is a pretty difficult, painful, and intimate process. She has every right to plan ahead for just how many people she wants to be in the room for that. This is not about you. You are going to get to see your grandchild the day they are born. You will get to be in your grandchild’s life for as long as you live. Nothing is being taken from you. You are not being snubbed. Your daughter-in-law and your son are drawing a totally appropriate boundary, and you need to stop trying to argue with them about it. Frankly, I can see why they don’t want you in the room, if But I was a nurse! and I’m a second-class grandmother is your response to Please hang out and read a book in the hallway while Julia is crowning. Let this go. Do not rob this moment of its joy by keeping score and demanding more."