New Parent Called ‘Misogynist’ For Asking Friend To Wear Bra Before Meeting Baby Who ‘Grabs Nipples’

Posted by Zainab Pervez in Bizarre On 21st May 2022
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A woman explained in Reddit how she tried to prepare her friend for her first visit with her baby by pointing out that her baby was grabby during her breastfeeding stage and that she wanted to keep her friend safe because she had an intimate piercing, which could be painful. Instead, she got offended and called her a misogynist.

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A new mother requested her friend to wear a bra when visiting her baby because he had a habit of grabbing onto nipples, she was accused of being a “misogynist”.

Taking to Reddit the mum said: "I have a six-month-old, and just started allowing visitors. My best friend came to visit and I texted her suggesting she wear a bra or a thick shirt if she plans to hold my son because he grabs nipples, very hard and my friend has hers pierced and has told me they’re super sensitive."

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Taking to Reddit the mum said: "I have a six-month-old, and just started allowing visitors. My best friend came to visit and I texted her suggesting she wear a bra or a thick shirt if she plans to hold my son because he grabs nipples, very hard and my friend has hers pierced and has told me they’re super sensitive."

"I explained this to her and she ignored my messages but she came over anyway. I offered to give her a sweater and she looked at me sideways and suggested I was sexualizing her breasts and she isn’t covering up."

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"I explained that wasn’t the case but she didn’t want to hear me, I respected her decision and asked if she still wants to hold the baby."

"She grabbed my son from me and within five minutes he had a death grip on her nipples and she jumped up screamed in pain and pulled him off of her.”

"I said 'that’s why I suggested a bra' this made her even madder and she said: 'No you suggested that because you’re a misogynist.'

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"I was so confused and she left abruptly. She keeps telling our mutual friends that I was sexualizing her breasts and was trying to make her wear a bra or that I wouldn’t welcome her but that isn’t at all what happened."

The upset mum added: "In the midst of our arguing she suggested that I should teach my son to not grab nipples but he is just a baby."

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While the Redditor may have prepared herself mentally for potential bites when her child started teething, she might not have thought about him flicking and playing with a nipple he isn’t sucking on. However, this habit, commonly known as twiddling, isn’t uncommon.

According to experts, it often starts around 6 months. Twiddling may be affected by a variety of developmental and environmental factors. These include diminishing milk supply or the little one learning how to use a pincer grasp.

The baby may even go in and out of twiddling phases as they grow. Very young newborns tend to be sleepy and need to concentrate on latching and sucking, older babies tend to fidget more while they feed.

As they become more mobile and alert, they may notice their mom’s other breast is within reach and want something to do with their hands. Some babies and toddlers will even continue twiddling after they’ve been weaned, so parents want to keep an eye out for their children wanting to play with mommy’s chest even if they’re no longer being breastfed.

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The members of the “Am I the [Jerk]?” community unanimously agreed the mom was being reasonable and didn’t overstep any boundaries—something they couldn’t say about her friend, whose number, in the eyes of the many, she should have deleted a long time ago.

But the author of the confession said she’s worthy of the benefit of the doubt. “She’s been through a lot,” the woman explained. “I’ve known her since we were 12 (I’m 26 now) and … she wasn’t like this growing up.”

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However, the future of their relationship isn’t looking too good. “After this and reading all of your lovely comments (and I don’t mean that sarcastically), [I realized that] she’s a toxic friend who I can’t help unless she helps herself, [and] unfortunately, it looks like cutting contact might be the best thing for the both of us right now … I hope she seeks therapy because this behavior is not acceptable and I refuse to tolerate it anymore,” the woman said.

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