You skip foreplay
The problem: You come home after thinking about sex all day and try to stick your penis in her right away. She, on the other hand, has not been thinking about sex. She's been thinking about work, that squabble with her best friend, and what she's making for dinner. She's not warmed up, therefore she's not going to enjoy it. Fix it: "Foreplay, foreplay, foreplayI can't say it enough! You may be ready to go the second you get home, but you have to remember, sex is mostly mental for women. They have to be warmed up, physically and mentally. Most women not only enjoy foreplay, but we need it in order to get aroused before actual intercourse. Foreplay can even start hours before you're through the door. Send her a text about how much you can't wait to see her or how beautiful she looked this morning. Then when you get home kiss and caress her before you start taking her clothes off. Foreplay isn't a suggestion; it's a requirement for most women.
You always act self-conscious
There's nothing less sexy than someone second-guessing themselves in the bedroom. If you don't have the confidence to get in the sack with someone, then you should maybe consider working on yourself outside the bedroom. You're only bringing down the mood otherwise.
You’re afraid of doing something wrong, so you don’t try anything new
You're stuck in your head during sex. You've thought about trying a new position you read or heard about, but you're afraid you won't be able to execute the move correctly or you might lose your erection. Missionary and doggy style are tried and true, so you stick with those two, and you have the same sex over and over again. Set aside your fears and replace them with passion. There will be embarrassing moments and there will be things that go wrong, but making mistakes is better than not doing anything at all
You don't touch after sex
If you jump out of bed to go do your own thing or turn over to pass out once you've finished, you need to reassess your sex. This isn't cute. Just because you orgasmed doesn't mean sex is over. Cuddle up, dammit. Enjoy each other.
You don't know how to read your partner
If you're having sex just so you can get off, you don't deserve to have sex. That's not how it's supposed to be. The only way to truly take advantage of the blessing that is sex is to know exactly what your partner wants and when.
You're not a fan of oral.
Not being a fan of oral is fine, if that's how you float, but not doing it on account is selfish and unneeded. Sex is all about reciprocation. So when someone goes down on you, you go down on them. Those are the rules.
You just want to climax
It's not about the destination, it's about the journey. Someone should have told you that a long time ago, because you're missing out on what makes sex so great which is the actual sex. The more you rush to the finish line, the more you risk of disappointing your partner.
You just want to climax
It's not about the destination, it's about the journey. Someone should have told you that a long time ago, because you're missing out on what makes sex so great which is the actual sex. The more you rush to the finish line, the more you risk of disappointing your partner.
You're never dominant
It's sexy when someone takes control of a sexual situation. But if you can't ever find yourself owning the room, you may end up with an unsatisfied partner. Show what you're capable of and take the reigns.
