Reason Why Many 'Straight' Men Cheat On Their Wives With Other Men

Jana Hocking, a prominent columnist, has taken a closer look at an eye-opening topic after engaging in conversations with her social media followers.

Through these discussions, she unearthed a startling trend: a significant number of men, who identify as straight, have secretly engaged in intimate encounters with other men while keeping it hidden from their partners.

Hocking’s inbox has been flooded with candid confessions, detailing secret relationships and experiences involving male colleagues, close friends, and even strangers.

Columnist Jana Hocking has explored why straight men in relationships with women cheat with other men. @jana_hocking/Instagram

This phenomenon seems so widespread that Hocking shared her findings with MailOnline to shed light on the situation.

One particular account described a man who fit the stereotypical image of heterosexual masculinity—an athletic, gym-focused, and seemingly traditional guy—casually admitting that he received oral sex from another man during a wedding.

He spoke about it with little hesitation or guilt, offering a glimpse into how these secret experiences are often kept hidden from their partners.

Curious about the emotional aftermath, Hocking reached out to women who discovered their partners had been living secret double lives.

For many of these women, uncovering their partners' infidelity left them grappling with shock and heartache, compounded by feelings of betrayal.

Sophie, a 29-year-old woman, shared how she first became suspicious of her boyfriend Nick after noticing a charge on his bank statement from a well-known gay bar.

Many women have been left upset after learning their partners have cheated on them with other men. Adobe Stock

Initially, Nick denied any involvement, but Sophie’s doubts persisted.

Her fears were confirmed months later when she stumbled upon explicit Snapchat messages between him and another man.

When confronted, Nick admitted to experimenting with his sexuality.

However, for Sophie, the deepest hurt came not just from his actions but from the lies that kept her in the dark.

Laura, 35, faced a similar situation after seven years of marriage.

While checking flight details on her husband’s laptop, she was stunned to find an open tab for a gay dating site.

When questioned, her husband admitted to visiting the site but denied having any physical interactions with men, leaving Laura struggling to process what she had discovered.

For Laura, this revelation triggered a crisis of self-esteem and prompted her to seek therapy to navigate the emotional turmoil.

In many of these cases, the women expressed that the most painful aspect wasn’t their partners’ hidden sexuality but the layers of dishonesty and secrecy that surrounded it.

A therapist Hocking consulted suggested that societal pressures on men to conform to traditional heterosexual norms often lead to suppressed identities and secretive behavior.

A therapist has revealed why men who identify as straight may sleep with other men. Adobe Stock

This internal struggle can eventually result in actions that shock and devastate their partners.

As one woman explained: "The betrayal wasn't the sex; it was the lying. If he had been honest, I would have at least understood."

Hocking emphasizes the need for a more accepting society, where people feel free to embrace their identities without the fear of judgment, shame, or betrayal.