The Worst Types Of Men Women Should Avoid Falling For

#1 Dishonest guy

Let’s face it: Some people are far more decent than others.

Researchers have studied this tendency and labeled it Honesty-Humility (1), a personality factor or "super-trait" that has been observed across many cultures. Individuals high on this trait are sincere, modest, fair-minded, and non-greedy. They do not exploit others, even when there would be no retaliation for doing so. Individuals at the low end of this trait, on the other hand, are dishonest, haughty, and arrogant. They lack empathy and exploit others. In a word, they are narcissistic.

And sometimes honest, humble people end up in romantic relationships with narcissists.

After enduring a good bit of exploitation, lying, and cheating in such relationships, the honest person often wonders, “How did I allow myself to end up with this person?” or, “What is wrong with me that I tolerated such obvious manipulation and exploitation?”

Yes, it is an outrage, but there is no reason to doubt yourself or your judgment.

Narcissists tend to be sexy because they spend so much time on their image. They know how to dress, walk, and talk in ways to literally charm the pants off others.

What's love without trust? If you detect any shadiness or discover a lie from a man while you are yet to begin the relationship, that could be a big, big sign that he is a dishonest man.

If you are an honest person with a narcissistic partner, I hope you can forgive yourself for tolerating the lying, cheating, and exploitation. It is because of your wonderful qualities of sincerity, fairness, and modesty that such a haughty, dishonest person could wiggle into your life. Please don’t think of yourself as a target or “sucker.” Next time, you will be more sensitive to signs of callousness and exploitation, and no doubt think twice before letting a narcissist into your life.

#2 The Corporate Slave

Sure, he brings in the big bucks, but is he going to be able to bring anything else to the table? Remember that money isn’t everything in life. Sure. You are going to be able to keep yourself busy with all the fancy things that your man is going to be able to buy you. But when all the material joy is gone, what left is there to cherish about your relationship? While it is important to be financially secure in a relationship, it is just as important to be with someone who is able to engage and connect with you on an emotional level. The Corporate Slave will be too tied up with his career to be able to pay you any attention.

#3 Alcoholic

The Alcoholic is very different from the Jekyll-and-Hyde Drunk. An alcoholic is a person who usually keeps it together and rarely acts irrationally.

But, this is because he is always self-medicating. His issues emerge when he's sober, so he would rather just block that all out and numb anything that resembles feelings.

You wonder if you've ever hung out with him when he's sober.

Sometimes, you don't even notice his drinking because it's so normal for him. He rarely drives anywhere and always wants to end the night at his place so he can have one more (or five more) cocktails from his own stash.

These people never have clear heads, so you can never be sure who they are. Nothing ever gets too real, deep or personal. You try to suggest sober activities, but they don't usually seem interested.

Alcoholics don't really want to engage with you in the light of day, without the comfort of their drinks.

#4 The Cheapskate

You don’t have to be labeled a “gold digger” to recognize the difference between a man who’s frugal and one who’s downright miserly. You know the type: he brings coupons to the first date or parks 17 blocks away to avoid paying a $4 valet (or both). Ah yes, this “avoidable” is known as the cheapskate.

Now, there is nothing wrong with a guy shopping for the best deal and being conservative with his money. However, if every activity is all about finding the stingiest alternative, nothing is ever fun.

Repeatedly counting change, stealing food from work and rationing toilet paper may seem quirky or sweet at first, but this behavior is indicative of future headaches. When it comes down to it, this guy has control issues.

#5 ‘My ex is my best friend’, man

When it’s over, it should be over, so be careful about a man who says he is still friends with his ex. Men often still hold a secret candle for their ex and it wouldn’t take a lot to reignite the old flame.

#6 Stonewaller

The second behavior that predicts divorce with over 90% accuracy, according to John Gottman's research and the experience of most couples' counselors, is stonewalling. Different from an occasional time out to calm down or collect your thoughts, stonewalling is absolute refusal to consider your partner’s perspective. If you listen at all, you do it dismissively or contemptuously.

The common songs of the stonewaller are:

“Just leave me alone…”

“Do whatever you want...”

“End of conversation…”

“Stop talking...”

“Get out of my face…”

“That’s enough…”

“I’ve had it!”

Stonewalling, according to the research of Gottman and others, as well as the experience of most couples' counselors, is far more likely to be a male thing. When women stonewall, it’s typically a function of temperament – they’re shy, inhibited, or introverted. More commonly, it’s a learned behavior – engaging in conflict or emotion-laden conversation has exposed them to put-downs or abuse in the past.

Of course, cultural reinforcement plays a large part, as the icon of the “the strong, silent male,” reinforces stonewalling.

Men are less likely than women to know when they stonewall because it seems so natural for them. A sure sign that a man is stonewalling is if he believes his partner nags him. That means he’s not listening. The nagging partner is an unheard partner.

#7 ‘The whole world hates me’ man

This is a guy who needs to grow up and sort himself out. If you want to be more, than just a shoulder to cry on, then stay well away from a man who thinks that the whole world is against him.

#8 The Roving-Eye Guy

This guy is constantly looking at every female but the one he’s with. He ogles the barrista, the woman at the bus stop, even his buddy’s wife, making his date feel inferior and unattractive. Most of us will agree that men are inclined to admire beautiful women (and vice versa) but let’s face it: Recognizing beauty and disrespectfully rubbernecking are two completely different things.

Constantly competing for your partner’s attention gets old really fast. If a man’s smarmy smile, inappropriate comments/gestures and keen interest in others are too distracting to the relationship, women pick up and move along. Even the most confident women want their men to treat them like they are the only one in the room.

#9 The Man-Child

This guy is clinging to his glory days when life was less complicated and responsibility was minimal. He’s obsessed with Guitar Hero, frequently attends keg parties and considers pizza one of the major food groups.

As a gateway back to youth, the Man-Child is fun for a date or two, but the problem is that he’s not going anywhere. This adolescent-adult has problems holding onto jobs and is more interested in living the life of a fraternity brother than making a serious commitment. Women are inclined to ditch The Man-Child until he grows up a little bit and learns to live life in the real world.

#10 The unambitious

While you might see no problem in dating a man who is not yet the complete package, you should think twice about dating a man who goes through life without a definite plan.

If a man is supposed to 'be in charge' but actually has no plan in place, it'll affect not just his life, but your relationship, too.

"Where do you see yourself in 1 year," you ask, but he does not know.

"How about in six months?" He does not know either.

#11 Man with no passion

As much as you might hate a man who is overly passionate about his job at your expense, the truth is that he is way better than one who has absolutely nothing that drives him.

Find yourself a man with a passion, something that makes him burn... because a man that has no passion can not make you better; and that is exactly what you need - a man who inspires and helps you to be better in every way.

#12 The control freak

Stay well away from this one. He is the guy that wants to know where you are and what you are doing, all the time. It won’t be long before he is telling you how to dress and what to say. Catch the warning signs of the control freak early, they could be signs of more dangerous things to come.

#13 The too quick to love you man

Let’s be honest; love at first sight is rare, except in the movies. If a guy is too quick to say ‘I love you’, then there is a good chance that these words don’t mean that much to him, as perhaps they do to you. Be careful with the ‘too quick to love you man’ or you could find yourself with a broken heart.

#14 The Commitment-Phobe

This is a guy to avoid, but he's less egregious than the others. Still, he will emotionally ruin you. This guy usually has it all together; he's mature and wise. He treats you very well and loves spending time with you.

And, you want so badly for that to be enough, but you are constantly craving more. It's like pulling teeth to get him to talk about the future.

He's happy where you both are, so why would he want to ruin that? He would never talk about moving in together or marriage seriously, even after more than a year of dating.

He just likes to cruise along and have someone to spend time with when he wants it; other than that, your lives are pretty separate.

He is Mr. Big.

If you are the most patient person on the planet and you are not at all looking for something that has the potential to last forever, then go ahead and be with this guy.

If you are afraid of commitment, as well, he could be a perfect match for you. But, for anyone else, this is definitely a type of guy to avoid.

They may seem very hard to come by, but there are many great men out there, so never allow yourself to fall for one of the bad ones.

Life is too short to put up with all that.

#15 Mr. Gadget

The gadget guy is always toting the latest toys for big boys. He has the hottest phone, a high-speed boat, a decked-out luxury car, and the newest Harley (for those weekend drives). In other words, this guy has a lot of material things keeping him busy. As a grown-up kid who can’t resist the new plaything of the moment, he has a hard time keeping his attention on women. After all, who can compete with technology when it changes at lightning speed?

Whether he is out to impress others, or he constantly needs to trade up to feed his own ego, this guy cares more about stuff than people. (Bad sign.) With this kind of outlook, women who date Mr. Gadget are often left wondering if an upgraded model will make them obsolete.

Remember, not everyone will come into your life ready-made, but there’s a difference between dusting off a diamond and fighting a battle you’re never going to win.