There are several things you unknowingly do that push your man away; most of these behaviors are not major, but rather opposite. But they may be the reason the man you love seems to lose interest in you without any explanation.
Avoid these things and your love will change:
I’ve made this mistake in the past, so I can assure all of you ladies that this is a big no-no. Bending over backwards to please your man—AKA giving up your happiness in exchange for his—is a key ingredient to losing his respect. You don’t need to cancel your night with the girls or your planned “night in” to rush over to his house and cook him a meal to satisfy his needs; satisfy your needs first. If you don’t feel like going out and just want to stay in and be alone, no worries! Tell him your hands are tied tonight but you can see him another day. Not only will he respect you, he’ll pursue you.
From my point of view, what men call despair, I see more as genuine interest. I'm one who thinks there's nothing wrong with telling someone what you feel, think or want. However, in the world of relationships with the opposite sex, the rules are a bit different for everyone.
It's OK to show interest, but to keep a man interested in you, the less interest you show, the less you seek him and the less time you spend with him, the more likely you will drive him crazy (in a good way).
In the first stages of a relationship, it is easy to get caught up in the attraction and excitement of a new partner. Every touch is electric, and you just want to spend all of your time together. As that spark starts to fade, as it does in all relationships, don’t feel the need to cling to him. It is only natural to settle into a routine and spend less time together. It doesn’t mean that he is losing interest or your intimacy is fizzling. It also doesn’t mean you should force your time together. Skip the guilt trips when he goes out with friends, don’t make him hold your hand while he watches the baseball game. Give him his space and enjoy your own. It is important to maintain your own sense of identity in a relationship and have time apart. It makes your time together that much better. He shouldn’t be the sole thing that makes you happy through the day. Spending some time apart is good for the both of you.
When you’re up inside your man’s ears about how he never takes you out or how he spends too much time with his friends, he will tune you out. There’s a good way to approach getting things done without the nagging. Be nonchalant and casual. If you bring up the same problem continuously, try not caring as much for a change. Suddenly his interest will be piqued and he’ll start to wonder why you aren’t nagging him all the time. Then he’ll start to listen and a mature conversation can take place. No nagging involved. No tuning you out.
Many women mistakenly believe playing "dumb" or acting naive is something that attracts men. If you do this, you should stop immediately.
The truth about this subject is that men will have more serious intentions with the woman who is both intelligent and mature. Pretending not to know anything will only take your relationship to a certain point.
Every guy has a friend that is so immature and disgusting it makes you question your boyfriend’s sanity. Why would he hang out with such a man child? Even though you can’t stand some or maybe all of his friends, they are his friends. They may have gone through a lot together and share some great memories. It isn’t up to you to clean up his group and force him to hang out with more mature men. Is there a friend of yours that comes off brash and irritating to your boyfriends? Does that mean you would drop her in a heartbeat for a guy? If so, you need to think about your loyalty. Don’t complain and bad mouth his boys. They are friends for a reason. If the worst thing about his friends is their immaturity, move passed it. Take advantage of the time he spends with his friends and reconnect with your ladies.
There is no good way to talk about your ex in a new relationship. Even if he asks you about your ex, give the shortest answer you can. Of the millions of topics you can talk about, never choose your ex as the subject.
Say you’re having a lovely dinner with your date and there’s talk of a second date—yay! You invite him over for dinner this time. You slave away to cook him this fabulous meal—three courses—and then for dessert, the bedroom will do because you went out and bought new lingerie. Now all of that sounds like a treat for him, but why didn’t he call after that night? Easy—you’ve shown him everything you’re capable of and there’s no mystery anymore. Men pursue when there’s something unknown; when the unknown becomes known early on, bye-bye to date number three.
Needing reassurance is a part of being human. Who doesn’t want to be told they are worthy and loved and beautiful? But when it borders on obsessive, annoying whining, it is rather off-putting. A healthy relationship is based on trust which means trusting your partner when they say they love you or say you are (insert whatever adjective). You shouldn’t ask constantly in order to inflate your weak self-esteem. That gets old. Men want a confident woman that is comfortable in her own skin not fishing for compliments at every turn. If you aren’t happy with yourself, no amount of reassurance from another person will fix that. Your need for assurance could be what undoes the relationship. It becomes burdensome to be someone else’s main source of happiness. You owe it to yourself to know who you are and find satisfaction in being who you are. Fulfill yourself before you try to fulfill the role of partner.
This one shouldn’t come as a surprise. There’s a difference between modesty and insecurity. If a man calls you beautiful and you shake your head and say, “No, stop, I’m really not, you don’t need to say that,” you’re coming off as insecure but he’s thinking you need more compliments. We girls see this in movies and TV shows from a young age; we’re conditioned to think that being extremely resistant to compliments means he’ll keep throwing them at you. Truth is, if you keep refusing his compliments, he’ll think they don’t mean anything to you and will eventually stop. If he calls you beautiful, say thank you and appreciate the compliment—he means it
Women who make things easy for men do so because they lack self-confidence, and are afraid that if they don't cater to his every whim, he will look for someone 'better." This idea could not be farther from reality.
If the man you love cannot lift a finger for you, you should leave now and save yourself from heartache. Men who don't have to work for a relationship lose interest immediately. Value yourself and make him work for what he wants.
There it is. His phone. Just lying there on the couch where he dropped it before heading to the other room. The screen is lit up and unlocked. You have to act quickly. Snatch it before it locks. What do you do? There is usually no good way this can end. You can get caught red-handed or if you find something you don’t like, you’ll have to admit that you snooped before you can get to the bottom of it. Ask yourself why you feel so compelled to look through his texts or rifle through the pockets of the jeans tossed on the floor. Do you not trust him or have you been burned before? Are your concerns valid or will you destroy a good relationship because of your insecurity? If he is actually untrustworthy, why are you with him? If he is an honest man and you’re just paranoid, don’t ruin what could be a good thing by searching his life like a prison guard looking for contraband.
Nobody should be forced into anything. If you start to order him around and expect him to do what you want, it won't be long before he leaves. Above all, never forget that you are a lady, and although you must stand your ground, you shouldn't cross the line.
From time to time, women might need to give their significant others a nudge forward whether it is trying new food or experiencing something other than football on Sunday. It is good to move beyond comfort zones from time to time, but men don’t appreciate it if it happens constantly. No one really wants to be bullied into doing things they don’t want or like. Squelching their interests so you can fill your time together doing what you love isn’t exactly a relationship. It is more like having a voluntary hostage. If your steamrolling goes beyond just interests and you are handing out ultimatums for marriage or other large decisions, maybe he isn’t the right person for you. Don’t try to hammer a man to fit your mold. Good relationships are supported by understanding and honesty. Ask yourself why it is so important to be in control all the time. Maybe it’s you that has a problem, not him.
Nothing is worse and more confusing than this. If you said it was OK for him to go out with his friends, do not get angry later and tell him you really didn't want him to. Keep your word and behavior in line with the messages you send.
It is wonderful to have a confidant to discuss your work problems and the nasty thing your best friend said behind your back. A boyfriend can be the one person you can tell everything and give your most intimate secrets. Don’t let the relief from unloading turn into constant complaining. He might be such a great listener and sympathizer you can’t help but offer up every little complaint. From broken nail to lost shoe, you find yourself only discussing the bad in your life. Don’t forget to talk about the things that make you happy and excited about life. More importantly, don’t forget to listen. Men tend to hold their feelings in, and you might have to draw them out of that shell. But be sure you offer a shoulder for them to lean on to0. They have just as many work problems and best friend woes as you do.
This is a classic mistake. Your man seems distant or inattentive so you pull out this ace up your sleeve. It might seem like a good go-to move to get your sweetie to proclaim his undying love or start a fight to protect your honor, but it might not be the right way to get his attention. Getting caught up in the romantic idea of men fighting over you has a certain appeal for many women, and men just can’t seem to help themselves when it comes to proving themselves. This might have worked when you were twenty-one, but if you’re hoping to create a serious relationship this move will only create distrust. It is a tiresome and childish move. If you want his attention, find an appropriate non-violent way to talk to him about it. If he doesn’t listen, kick him to the curb. A busy woman like you doesn’t need to play games.
It's great that he is the man and will pay for most of the dates, but most don't mean all of them. You can offer to pay from time to time. It doesn't mean he will accept, but you should at least make an offer.
It's nice to find someone who has the same things in common with us, but it's only cute if it's true. If you're imitating everything he does to make him like you more, do not expect him to stay with you for long. He wants to love you for who you are.
It started when you caught a glimpse of her on Facebook. She is gorgeous, perfect, and seems to be the coolest. Then, you begin to panic about whether or not he is over her. You drive yourself crazy wondering why it ended, and you can’t help but wonder if he compares her to you. Don’t hound him with questions about his last girlfriend no matter how tempted you are to know what she was like and all the gory details of the breakup. They broke up for a reason, and unless he still seems hung up on her, leave it alone. Regardless of what she might seem like in photos, you don’t really know what their relationship was like, and you don’t need to know. Poking and prodding your man about the break up is only going to keep the wound from healing. Just like you don’t want to drudge up the awfulness of your last relationship, neither does he.
