Things That Most Husbands Hide From Their Wives

By Abdullah Sohrab Khan in Life Style On 17th August 2017

It is expected that for a healthy relationship, one shares their secrets with their partner as this leads to a long lasting relationship. Though everyone can agree on the fact that there are some things that still people tend to keep a secret from their partner. Here we look at some of the things that a husband keeps as a secret from his wife.

#1 They’re Not As Secure As You Think

Though it is a widely accepted belief that around the world men have it particularly easy when it comes to insecurities, while women are made to feel insecure about themselves so that they will buy products and get surgeries done in order to overcome those insecurities. It is true that men too from a very young age that as men they should down their feelings and emotions and not worry about how they look or feel. Unfortunately though, this does not make all the emotions go away, as while from the looks of it your husband has got a thick skin when it comes to how he looks or acts but it may come as a surprise to you that your husband is most probably a lot less secure than you think. Men can and should be openly emotional just as women can be more than just mothers. Sadly though in this day and age we are still stuck with the idea that men are not capable of expressing emotion similar to those of women.

#2 You May Not Always Be The Woman On His Mind

It happens ever so often that we expect people to completely change into a being of a particular nature if he is committed to someone. We are all humans and humans make mistakes no matter how frustrating it is. One must learn to love the other person with all his imperfections. Husband are no different, it is expected that once they enter the bond or marraige, they are prohibited to have thoughts of any other women, in no way do we condone cheating or betraying of any sorts. Though it is without a doubt unfair to think and expect that a man will never have thoughts about any other women throughout the period of his marriage, thinking and doing are two very different things. It is natural that for periods of times his thoughts may drift in other directions. To hold that against them, merely having the thought is what ruins good relationships. You cannot control one's thoughts, it is not humanly possible.

#3 You May Not Know Everything About His Past

Trust and honesty go a long way in defining the course of your relationship, talking comfortably with one another sharing anything and everything about yourself. Though not ever person has a nature as such that he may want to share everything from his past with you, that one person may very likely be your husband. They do not feel like sharing some things from thier past. It may or may not have anything to do with the realtionship or with you but sometimes he has his reasons to keep that thing with himself and not share it with anyone, not even his wife. There is nothing wrong with it, if he does not feel comfortable sharing any such things then accept it that way. Trust him even though it may seem frustrating as trusting him could lead to a long and fulfilling relationship. This is who he is, he is not keeping something from you so do not take it as a negative thing. If you cannot accept that then it is better to move on but it is always better do deal with these reality in a mature manner.

#4 All Of Your Flaws May Stay Secret

Counter to popular belief, that all men sit down together and chat about the flaws of their partner also discussing what or who could be better, plenty of men do not indulge into such activities at all. Even though we cannot speak for all men out there as there are probably men out there who discuss the flaws of their partners with their friends but there are big chances that the friends of your husband are not aware of that third nipple of the mole of yours that you find ugly but he for some reason thinks that it looks cute. There are plenty of husbands who respect the boundaries when it comes to what information they share about you with their peers, therefore one should not believe the stereotypes when it comes to figuring out how an individual is for real.

#5 How Much Is He Flirting Behind Your Back? You’ll Never Know

As we discussed earlier that trust goes a long way in defining the course of the relationship, this one is too may be an acceptable thing. Flirting to some people is a part of social bonding and personal connection. Many people their own definitions of flirting as well. This is something that you just need to sit down with your husband to discuss and have a frank discussion about as it is the nature of some people to flirt a bit here and there, passing a wry smile or a witty comment, but they know their limits and that is till where they keep their flirting to. As long as you trust and love your husband, you will be okay with a little flirting as you know it does not mean anything serious to him.

#6 He’s Probably Spending Some Time On His Own If You Know What We Mean

There is this stereotypical expectation in popular culture that women hate it when men spend some..."time on their own", and we will assume you know what we mean by a little personal time so we will not indulge into any further details about that. Personal time is a healthy sign to be honest, it is a sign to that you have a healthy mentality towards the world of sex and intimate relationships. Nobody has ever had a problem with it before and no one should have one as it should be the right of every individual to have some alone time, just as women do, oh yes we all know that you do as well.

#7 They’re Not As Dependent As You Think Either

Anyone who has ever been in a serious relationship has most probably heard the words, "I cannot live without you", but apparently they all end up living just fine a couple of month after being separated. Therefore no matter how many times your partner may say otherwise, he is probably not likely to fall apart if you were to disappear for a week unlike how most people feel about thier partners. But if he is the type that probably will fall apart then that guy is more of a liability. True, there are people who are from privileged background who have not done anything themselves their whole live. Even though we cannot speak for everyone else, that is not the type of person that you would want to be with. But in most cases your partner is not as dependent as you may think.

#8 Cuddling Is Something They Love

Counter to popular belief most men do actually like to cuddle. As discussed earlier that it is possible that even though you husband does like cuddling, he may not be able to express so as he has been told by the society to suppress that feeling. Though if you make him feel comfortable enough, you'll realize how much he loves cuddling.

#9 There’s A Big Chance He Doesn’t Trust You

It is quite possible that you have had experiences in the past in your relationships that have led you to not trust people that you end up in relationship with. It is therefore very likely that your husband has had similar issues and that he might not have full confidence in you. This in no way means that you should feel guilty even though you have done nothing. His trust levels are probably going to be dodgy but it is in the best interest of your relationship that both of you sit down and discuss, as it may open him up to the relationship in a big way.

#10 We’d Keep Your Phones Close To Your Chest If We Were You

Usually it is thought that women are the ones that snoop around and check their partners cell phones when they are not around, though it is equally possible that you husband is checking your phone when you are not looking. Even though mobile phones have made things a lot easier, it still is capable of giving people access to your personal lives very easily. Snooping into your messages on your phones to check out what you have been up to and who you have been talking to is no different than your husband following you around and asking your peers what you have been up to, which is in no way acceptable. The quicker the people realize this, the easier it would make sustaining long healthy relationships.

#11 They Think They’re Smarter Than You

There were times decades back when men it was generally accepted that men were smarter than women, but we have come a long way into realizing the true potential of women, through education, hard work and struggle. They now stand side by side with men in all prestigious positions. Though not all men have evolved through this time, some are still stuck in those fantasies where they think they are smarter than thier women. This is not the type of person you would want to get into a relationship with. Yes, it is true that one should surround themselves with people who make you try and be better than you were yesterday but being around a person for a long time who just thinks less of your intelligence is not healthy.

#12 Husbands Would Rather You Made Less Money

The idea of masculinity and what it means for your husband to be a man sometimes just drives him away from the true meaning of a relationship that is being equal contributors in everything. Your husband might thing that makes him less of a man if his wife earns more than him, no matter how tough things get he would rather have you earning less than him as he wants to be the sole bread-winner for his home. Both of you are human and just because he was born as man and has to be in some way better than you is wrong. This speaks of the insecurities he has.

#13 You May Never Know How Much He Actually Makes

Many of the women reading this would probably be laughing at this one thinking that it is not possible that her husbands earnings are not known by her as it is indeed her who makes sure that all finances are in order. It is quite possible that there are some bank accounts you do not know of. Men keep their bank statements close to their chests. It is sad to hear the number of marriages that end due to money, it is an evil construct that sometimes subconsciously affects our decisions as we are told all our lives that is the most aspect of our lives.

#14 He Probably Has Some Female Friends You Don’t Know About

Your husband has probably told you about quite a few female friends that he has got and some of his female colleagues that he often hangs out with but it is very likely that he has skipped a couple of female friends when mentioning his female friends. Maybe it is because he might be a little shifty with them or has got a slight crush on them and it also possible that he may have not mentioned them as he thought that you might feel jealous of them for some reason. Just as women sometimes do not tell their husband of some of their male friends. We are not saying that you be suspicious of them but it causes no harm in asking.

#15 Look, He Just Doesn’t Like Your Parents

This is one of those ones that not much can be done about as sometimes you just have to deal with things as they are. As long as your husband maintains to be civil and not put you in the middle of it, i think it can be tolerated. Though it can be very toxic to have a husband that is willing to emotionally blackmail and manipulate his partner just because his in-laws are getting in the way. This will be tough to handle but one thing that can be assured is that it gets easier.

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