This Tiktok Doctor Reveals How To Deal With Angry People

Angry people can be annoying at best and terrifying at worst. For some of those that can't just walk away from situations where someone is being angry at them, this post will be a godsend.

Ryan Martin is an Anger Professor and has created a series on his TikTok channel where he gives you tips on how to behave if you are facing someone who is being angry towards you.

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The doc starts with a hard truth to begin with and that's to ask yourself if you actually did something to anger the person you're in an interaction with. 

Sometimes people might be angry at us in a justified manner. Then the onus is on us to sort through those feelings and help them navigate them.

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In other cases however, it might be that they're right but because they don't know how to express their anger they might end up being unreasonable towards you. 

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This is where you need to be the more differentiated person and tell them that while you accept your mistakes, you shouldn't be spoken to or treated a certain way. 

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Anger is a weird emotion where people may either explode at you or simply not express themselves at all. We've all had partners who give us the silent treatment. What do we do in these cases doc?

Well, he says to find an effective way to communicate. One that works for both people.

The next thing to do would be to tell them that you are ready to talk when they are. At this point, you've done everything in your power already and simply need to wait for them to come around. 

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Well what about someone's raging at you over text?

Doc says that's great because this time you have an opportunity to take a breather before replying.

You can ask them questions when you feel cooled down and without meeting aggression with aggression and not feeling resentful either.

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But the final thing to do is to know when to leave a situation.

Sometimes people will be angry and unreasonable no matter how many ways you approach the situation.

If you feel you're unsafe or that the situation might not come to a good resolution, it might just be time to walk away.

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But then, people are different and you might never know how an interaction plays out. As the good doc says, "results may vary"

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