Having people like you goes so much further than friendships. It can help start a new romantic relationship, get a great promotion at work or even get discounts when you need them. While being a nice person most of the time can do the trick, this psychologist reveals 9 tips to help expedite that process.
TikTok Psychologist Reveals 9 Things That Make People Like You
TikTok is a smorgasbord of content. From dance videos to duets to box crate challenges, there never seems to be an end to the videos people seem to put out. Also among them are people sharing advice tips and tricks to help you get through life in an easier way. How does one, however, sift through the bad advice and get to the good?
Luckily, this TikTok psychologist, who is certified makes use of her degree to share important knowledge with the rest of us. One series that she has started tells people how to become more likable.
Show the palms of your hands
Her first recommendation is to show the palms of your hands when you're having a conversation with people. This makes them believe that you have nothing to hide and are trustworthy and open as a person.
"When you're talking to someone, always show the palms of your hands. This communicates to their subconscious mind that you have nothing to hide, that you are open, that they can trust you and you are their friend."
Nod your head when talking to someone.
"In a conversation, when someone is talking, nod your head in affirmation."
"This will do so many things to their brain. First of all, it will give them that feeling of validation. It will make them feel like you're truly listening to them and it is that feeling of validation that we search for unconsciously, that we got from our mom, and we're searching in our partner, we're searching in other people. So it becomes really addictive when you do this, and you make people feel validated."
"We like people that like us. Knowing how to appreciate someone and make compliments will make them like you more. Notice something special about them or say something like "I really like the way you think""
Mirror their body language
"When you talk to someone try to match your body language and talk at the same volume and speed as they are.
This will tell [their] subconscious mind that you are like them and they will trust you more."
Compliment people in group settings as well
"When you're talking in a group, give credit and compliment other people. For instance, if you're saying a story, highlight something that someone did well. People will want to stick around you more."
Ask someone to do you a favour.
"Ask people to do a small favour for you. This is called the Benjamin Franklin effect. Say something like; Hey, can you pass me the salt, please? Their subconscious mind thinks that they like you bc they're doing you a favour.
Ask people for their advice
"Ask people for their advice. Making them feel like their opinion matters. According to research done by Katie Liljenquist makes them form a commitment to you and makes them like you more."
"What do you think I should order?"
"I think you should get the vegan burger, it's really good"
"Ok, I'll get that! thank you!"
"Aw I feel like I like you already"
Wait before responding
"Instead of responding immediately after someone says something to you. Wait a couple of seconds.
This makes them feel like you're really thinking about what you're going to reply. And it makes you seem like a better listener"
Address people with their name
"Call people by their name. We absolutely love hearing our name called by someone else, because it makes us feel important and appreciated."