After having a one-night stand with a man, a transgender man told how he became pregnant while transitioning. When Ash Patrick Schade, 28, of Huntington, West Virginia, found he was pregnant in February 2020 after a 'Grindr hook-up,' he had been transitioning for two years and was on testosterone and estrogen blockers.
Transgender Man Gives Birth To Baby Conceived On A One-Night Stand While Transitioning
'It had never occurred to me that I could get pregnant whilst on testosterone and estrogen blockers, as it's such a rare occurrence,' Ash explained.
He met his now-husband Jordan, 28, a month after finding out he was pregnant. Ronan, the couple's daughter, was born in October 2020.
The couple is parenting their one-year-old son Ronan together, and Ash, who had his breasts removed after the birth, says he is delaying full gender reassignment surgery so they can have additional children together.
Ash, who was previously married to another man, explained: 'I was going through a rough time from 2019 and 2020 and struggled with my mental health due to going through a divorce.’
'I ended up going on Grindr hook-ups and accidentally fell pregnant.’
'It was a huge shock, but I fell in love with my bump and pushed through the pregnancy, despite struggling with the dysphoria and medical risks.'
As a child, Ash's parents put him to conversion therapy in the hopes of 'fixing' him since he felt like he was in the wrong body' for "as long as he could remember."
'I hid my boobs and identified as a boy at school and went by Ash, and wore gothic dark clothes as a way to hide how I looked,' he recalled.
'Until one day, my mother, who does not wish to be named, sent me to school in a pink two-piece for picture day and my teacher loudly declared that I was a girl called Ashley.’
'I went from popular to a nobody overnight, with my then girlfriend's mum calling my mum to "keep that gay slur of a child away from my daughter."’
'I had a horrible childhood and am a suicide attempt survivor from the gender dysphoria and trauma I went through.'
In 2018, Ash began his transition.
When he learned of the pregnancy, he worried that his mental health might deteriorate, but he had the support of his husband, Jordan, whom he married in February 2021, four months after Ronan was born.
Ash continued: 'Nobody wanted to take my case when I first found out I was pregnant. It was such a high-risk case, with a lot of potentials for the pregnancy to go awry.’
'I struggled with the pregnancy, especially with the pandemic. But once I was assigned a doctor, he worked with me to understand how I was feeling and what I was going through.’
'When I went into labor, the team of medical staff had already been briefed on my situation and were amazing, until they were swapped out with different staff members later on...’
'It may sound counter-intuitive, but giving birth felt like one of the most masculine things I have done.’
'To me, growing up and looking at male role models, being a man was never about having the biggest penis, it was about what you did to help others, what you could accomplish and achieve.’
'Bringing life into the world as a "seahorse parent" was incredible.'
Ash also thanked his friends, the online gay and trans community, and the Satanic Temple, of which he is a member, for their support.
He expressed interest in telling Ronan about her birth as she grows older.
'I want to be honest and open with Ronan the whole way, and explain to her that sometimes trans men can have babies,' he continued
'I can explain to her how I am both her mom and her dad. A lot of the time people will stop us whilst we are out and say that her mother must look beautiful, or if I'm out with Jordan they'll ask where we adopted her.’
'So it's usually quite an interesting conversation to begin when I explain it all to them.'