Unrealistic Things Men Expect Women To Do In A Relationship

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Dating is one of the biggest struggles in life, and men don’t make it any easier. While we obviously love them, we can’t help but notice the unrealistic—and honestly, ridiculous—expectations they have of us in relationships. Take a look at them! Did we miss any unrealistic things men expect from women? Share your thoughts below!

#2 Doing All His Dirty Laundry

Shockingly, many milennial men grow up with their mothers always doing their dirty loads of laundry. As a consequence, they find the whole task daunting when they get to be adults. Well ok, not all guys our age don’t know how to do laundry. This is usually an apparent trait once you start to shack up with your guy and start doing chores together. They might take it for granted and just sort of expect you to wash their dirty underwear without even having to ask. Maybe this wouldn’t be the worst idea in the world as long as he holds up his end of the bargain by doing other household duties. Just make sure that happens and it should all be smooth sailing. Doing a guy’s laundry isn’t the end of the world as long as it is something that you are comfortable with.

#3 Tolerating Flakiness

If you had plans with him, and you find him consistently bailing out on you at the last minute, then put your foot down. Think about it: whenever a friend flakes out on you, there is a short expiration date as to how long you will tolerate it for. Your boyfriend is no exception. It is far too much work to maintain friendships or relationships with people who can’t be there when they say that they are going to be there. Next time he flakes out on you, just stop inviting him to hang out. If he is still interested, he will come around and ask why you have stopped inviting him. Tell him it is because you feel that you can’t rely on him and that your time is better spent with people you can rely on.

#4 Cooking Before They Earned It

Back in our grandparent’s generation, the role of the women was to mind the kitchen. This meant cooking, washing dishes, etc. Granted, there are still many women out there that love cooking and there is nothing wrong with that. It just becomes sexist if you are dating a guy who just assumes that A) you are naturally good at cooking because you are a woman and B) that you owe him the pleasure of you cooking for him on a regular basis. First off, you should only cook for a significant other if they are significant to you. If a guy is just using you to hook up, then all that time and money spent on making a tasty meal for him is largely wasted. Only cook for a guy if you know you are a good cook and enjoy doing it. Also, wait until he has taken you on a few dates before you cook for him. It takes a special type of guy to deserve that.

#5 take care of what you can take care of but we also want you to need us – I’ve got nothing on this…

I think that women want to take care of what they can take care of, I think that men don’t want to feel like women are completely dependent on them, but when everyone is satisfied… men aren’t. Men won’t ever reach a point where we think that it’s okay to date a fully independent woman. Yeah, we’d like you to pay your phone bill but your ass better call us when a spider needs to be dealt with.

Consider it a holiday, we’re not going to attack women today!!! That’s a joke only because I know that people think that goes on around here often. Nonetheless, I’m interested to hear the thoughts of both sides. What are some expectations that men put on women that are unrealistic? I’m looking for responses from men and women.

#6 We can’t read your mind

As a man, you are likely not used to spilling out all your feelings and troubles. We get that. You are not used to complaining. You don’t want to appear weak and so on. But if something really bothers you – we want to know! We can see you are being passive-aggressive so something must be wrong. Yet, in most cases we cannot read your mind and magically guess the reason. Instead of playing an evening game of charade with questions like: “Did something happen at work yesterday?”, “Did you fight with Joe?”, “Is your Mom feeling well”? and so on, just tell us what’s wrong! We’d really appreciate that.

#7 I like your curves, but you still need to lose weight

They say they like your curves but still feel you should hit the gym on a regular basis! Now what does one make of that? Men know, that by hinting to their girl that she has put on some weight, they are digging their own grave. Guys, expecting your wives to be fit is okay. But asking them to have that perfect figure, especially after having a child, is a bit too much.

#8 We rarely make an exception in our rules for you

Most of us have these small rules when it comes to dating: “no kissing on the first date”, “the 5 date rule”, and so on. Those rules exist in a woman’s mind for a reason. We don’t want to feel cheap or used. We don’t want to get hurt or become too close before we get to know each other well enough. If you are, indeed, “worth it”, we’ll break the rules without any extra encouragement from your side.

#9 We can’t be casual and emotional all at once

Guys, we sometimes don’t mind having just a casual physical connection and not being in a relationship. Yet, if you “don’t really look for a relationship right now,” then we don’t really look to deal with your emotional issues, go to brunch together or give an advice of what to say at a job interview. If this is “just sex,” just have sex with us, but don’t bring in your emotional baggage and false expectations in tow.

#10 Hooking up all the time

It always seems like guys have an appetite to hook up more often so than woman. They are biologically programed to be the more promiscuous gender simply for the reason that they don’t have the potential child-bearing burden. When you are in a relationship, you need something to bond over that goes beyond hooking up. If there has never been a time where you hung out with your guy and hooking was not involved, then that might be the premise in which your relationship is founded. If that is your prerogative, then that is completely acceptable. If you are looking for something more meaningful, then its time to suggest getting out of the bedroom and actually doing something activity related. If he isn’t down for that, then he sees you as a hook up, not a girlfriend. Yes, the truth hurts sometimes.

#11 Talk to me about everything, but only what I like

We agree that discussing shopping or household chores, is not exactly what men want to talk about. In the same vein, talking just about sports, the latest gadgets in the market and discussing the horsepower of different vehicles, are not exactly topics most women have any interest in. Basically, men want to talk more about only what they want to talk about. They partially shut down their mind processors when their wives want to discuss something, that is or isn’t necessarily a girly topic.

#12 Being low maintenance while looking high maintenance:

Guys, it takes time to look good. If it was possible for us to get up and go without any preparation, we'd be all over it. If you want us to rush getting ready, expect rushed results.

#13 Call me, but not too much

It is obviously a good feeling when someone calls you to know how you are doing or just to let you know that they miss you. But, men want that too on their terms. They want their girl to call them, but not too much, or only when they are in the 'mood' to talk. Now, how unreal and unfair is that for your girl?

#14 Being a guy's girl while not having any other guy friends:

You, sir, will not be the only male figure in our lives as much as you'd like to be. It's unrealistic, and not to mention unfair (double standard, much?).

#15 Being independent while confirming your masculinity:

Independent women are just that — independent. So if that's what you're looking for, you can't simultaneously hold us responsible for keeping your manhood in check. We can't be expected to need you and to be completely self-sufficient.