Why Men Post Revenge Pictures

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Many people prefer porn made with and by their lovers. There are multiple men whose porn of choice are images and videos they’ve made with their wife or girlfriend. They say, “It’s someone I know and love. I know she’s not faking.” “I know she’s turned on because I was there, or because I know her and what she sounds like.” “I love her and seeing her turned on and happy; that’s a far greater turn-on than watching a porn star I don’t know.” Here are just some of the reasons from men and patients, as to why men choose to post such revenge porn online:

#1 Candaulism

To show off to other men (and himself) what a stud the guy is, that he not only got this hot girl to have sex, but she let him film it. This is sometimes called “candaulism,” after Greek King Candaules who showed off his naked wife to an advisor Gyges, and then lost his kingdom to Gyges when the wife found out.

#2 Doxing

To get revenge on a woman, for breaking up with him and for hurting his feelings. Rather than admitting he has feelings and dealing with them, he lashes out and tries to take her down a peg. Some men cross extreme lines, "doxxing" the women and sharing name and identity information as well;

#3 To Be A Cool Guy

To be one of the “cool guys” that post such porn. There’s a lot of peer pressure in those kinds of online communities. They want to be cool, and they want to share their porn with other guys — guys who have shared their pictures with them. These men have a value of not just being a “taker” but to give back. It’s strange perhaps, to see that positive value involved here, where it causes harm.

#5 Because The Guy Is Angry At All Women

Because the guy is angry at all women, and he wants to take women down off their pedestals. I think this is rarer, but it certainly seems present in some of the highest profile revenge porn cases. Within the military, it is certainly worth speculating that some of these men were motivated by anger at women’s increased role and acceptance in the military.

#6 He Thinks That Woman Enjoys This

Because the guy, believe it or not, thinks the woman might actually be excited an turned on by the man sharing her picture. It sounds crazy, but many men think they would be turned on, by a large group of women looking at naked pictures of him. They often truly believe that the woman would experience this the same way, without understanding that women’s sexuality is treated quite differently by society.