Woman Asks If She's A Jerk For Not Wanting Her Husband To Go To His Ex's Funeral

Some people can be pretty insecure about their partner's exes and become very petty if they have any interactions. But this woman took that to another level by staying insecure and petty even after her husband's ex's death.

A Reddit user 'u/aita_husband_deadex' asked on AITA thread if she's an a*****e for stopping her husband from attending his ex's funeral who was his close friend. Reddit users unanimously agreed to her query and declared her an a*****e.

OP is a woman in her 40s who couldn't stand her husband's ex, who he still was friends with. OP's been with her husband for 10 years while he's known his ex for 20+ years.

They were college friends and got married, but it didn't work out so they stayed friends. Even though it happened years before he met OP, he made it clear from the beginning that his friend was important to her.

A few months into dating when she came to know about it, she expressed her discomfort. But her husband made it clear that if she has any issues she can save her time, cuz he will choose his friend and OP will have to be ok with that if she wants this relationship to continue.

OP thought that getting engaged would change things but her husband was clear that his marriage isn't going to effect his friendships.

But OP built resentment for her and hated interacting with her as her husband also became friends with OP's husband.

OP's husband kept hanging out with his ex.

When OP would express her anger, her husband would say that she had her chance to backout.

When the ex died suddenly from aneurysm, OP was relieved though her husband cried a lot.

When both husbands were planning the funeral, OP told her husband that he shouldn't be thinking of attending the funeral.

She argues that now she's dead, he can't use the 'she's my friend' excuse. He has cried and mourned already so he doesn't need to go to her funeral. 

Obviously, it made him very angry and he was willing to give up on his marriage. He made it clear that besides OP she was the closest friend in her life.

Now everyone is calling her an insensitive a*****e for creating this scene on her funeral since their relationship was completely platonic.

OP has opened up about her resentment now she's gone and doesn't feel a need to hide it anymore.

Now she asks if she's a jerk for asking him not to attend the funeral?

Reddit users unanimously agreed that she infact is an a*****e. 

One user said that her husband wouldn't stay a friend with her after he divorces her after how she treated him,

"YTA

When he divorces you, he probably won't have to explain his friendship with you to the next woman because, seriously... who'd want to stay friends with a woman who had treated you like this?"

Another user called her out for her hypocrisy, that if it bothered her so much, she shouldn't had married him. She could show some class and be done with her funeral instead of showing her true colors, and suggested her to get some therapy and find her heart.

"Best comment here so far. OP is very YTA. If it bothered her so much she should not have married him. He was upfront about it. If she had any class, she could have just not said anything, gave her condolences, and be done with it. But she had to show off her ghoul fave to everyone in mourning. What kind of monster is "relieved" that her husband's friend DIED. Way to show your true colors, somewhere in the middle of snot green and pure black.

OP should get some therapy and go look for a heart with Dorothy."

One user called her jealous and petty.

"Seriously! Wow YTA! Pretty cold one too. If it were another friend or family member would you tell him he shouldn’t go because they’re dead, so they no longer have a relationship? You knew from the beginning and throughout the relationship that she was important to him, and YOU accepted it and moved forward. He gave you an out early on. You knew his feelings on the matter, now you get to live with your decision. If you keep this up, even with her being gone he may still choose her and leave, mainly because you have shown you have little regard for his feelings. If you were a good partner, you’d support him during this time, and go with him. If you can’t do that, then let him grieve in peace.

Honestly the only reason you “hated” her was because she was his ex. Her husband got past this and was even friends with your husband. Your just jealous and petty."

Another congratulated her for her impending divorce.

"YTA- congrats on your impending divorce"

Another hoped that her husband gets a good divorce lawyer.

"She died after they had lunch the other day on the way to her car. He spent a bunch of time crying, but honestly I was relieved.

Read this sentence you wrote and try to explain to anyone how you aren't the asshole. YTA.

He was working with her husband on funeral planning. I told him "You don't think you're going, do you?"

Read this sentence you wrote and try to explain to anyone how you aren't the asshole. YTA.

I hope he gets a good divorce lawyer."