Woman Snapped At Man Who Was Uncomfortable Seeing Her Working Out Without A Bra At The Gym

Posted by Sumaiya Ghani in Social Issues On 14th September 2021

A 25-year-old unnamed woman came to Reddit to ask people whether she handled the situation in the right manner. The woman wrote she was doing a workout at the gym when a stranger came and advised her to wear a bra. "So I tell him You have bigger boobs and nipples than I do. Maybe YOU should wear a bra so people won't get uncomfortable and you won't fail your squats."



A woman was interrupted by a man who was apparently uncomfortable seeing her working out at the gym

The unnamed 25-year-old woman has come to the internet to ask her fellow women for advice. The woman was working out at a co gym minding her own business when out of nowhere a man came and tapped on her shoulder to get her attention. 

"I recently started going to the gym again and started working out braless. I should note that up until now, no one has ever pointed out anything wrong with me not wearing a bra. However, in the middle of a set of squats (yes, MID SQUAT), a guy comes up to me, taps me on the shoulder to get my attention, and tells me that my nipples are poking through my shirt. I get really irritated because why is this guy staring at my nipples in the first place and then stopping me mid-set to inform me?

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The woman came to Reddit to ask people whether she handled the situation in the right way.

For the past one and a half years, this woman has stopped wearing bras as she feels she has "nonexistent boobs" and finds the undergarments "uncomfortable and expensive".

She told she never faced any problem until recently when one man at the gym pointed that out to her. 

In a post on the Am I The A**hole forum, she wrote:

"I f***ing hate wearing bras. They're uncomfortable, constricting, and expensive. With work from home, I spent the last year and a half basically never wearing a bra and got used to it. Quite frankly, my boobs are nonexistent anyways.

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The thing that annoyed her the most was why that guy was staring at her chest in the first place.

"I get really annoyed, try to finish my set, but then this f***er literally grabs the bar, as I ascend and re-racks it for me. He claimed it looked like I was having trouble with the last rep, and that he had come over to make sure I could do it, then noticed my nipples."


She told the stranger guy that she didn't need his help

The woman further wrote;

"He said he was going to spot me, but then noticed my chest and thought it'd be inappropriate."

 "I pointed out that the safety bar was set, so even if I did fail the set, he wasn't needed. But he just insisted people at gyms look out for each other, and that going forward, I should probably wear a bra so other people wouldn't get uncomfortable and that it may help me stay more balanced in my squats."

"I'm literally the only girl at the weights section of the gym at the moment, and other guys who were squatting and failed sets never have to worry about this s**t. I've seen guys fail multiple sets in a row and no one ever rushes to their aid, but I have a very slight pause, and everyone thinks I need rescuing. So I'm now really annoyed and also kind of uncomfortable that this guy I've never spoken to in my life thinks he's helping me and then has the audacity to tell me how to dress."


She snapped at the guy and things ended up in an ugly way

"So I tell him 'You have bigger boobs and nipples than I do. Maybe YOU should wear a bra so people won't get uncomfortable and you won't fail your squats.' He then got really defensive, saying he was just trying to help, then called me a b***h. Honestly, I'm not sure if I overreacted, but I'm still kind of p***ed off so maybe that's clouding my judgment. AITA?"


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Thousands of people came forward to show her support under the post

One person wrote;

"NTA. Report it to your gym, he had no right to comment on your body at all, and no right to try and assert his 'help' onto you, if he can't control himself from staring at another person's body then he shouldn't be at a place where he's going to encounter all manner of bodies."


One other person wrote;

"It is not our job to control men’s thoughts and actions. They need to do it no matter what we are wearing, what we are doing, where we are. (Vice versa for us.)"

One wrote;

"I’ve interrupted someone at the gym once, and it was because she was locking her knees out on a leg press and looked like she was struggling hard on each rep. Outside of safety, I see no reason to interrupt someone’s workout. I might ask if they got it if they are struggling, but most of the time I’m in my own bubble. I’m there to workout not socialize."