Money is one of the most tricky matters to discuss when it comes to dealing with relationships. It is really difficult for one to understand that how much involvement should be allowed of a partner when it comes to finances. It is definitely not an easy issue to navigate through. Go through this Reddit thread where one person has sparked a debate about the involvement of partners in one's finances and let us know your opinion in the comments section.
Woman Sparks Intense Debate After Asking Whether You Should Reveal Your Salary To Your Partner?
If one truly loves and trusts their partner, then the conversation about finances is one that cannot be hidden forever.
Dealing with the same issue, this Reddit user took to the platform of AITA, an acronym for Am I the A**hole, to ask whether they were in the wrong for refusing to share their salary with their partner, people had some pretty strong thoughts.
“My bf and I have been dating almost a year and he doesn’t know how much I make. I’ve been taken advantage of financially by bfs in the past so I keep what I make and signs of any wealth out of sight,” the Reddit user’s post began.
They then explained that they don’t “have a lot of obvious expensive things” that would hint at how much they have in their bank account but they do have a few expensive bags, clothes and other items. The Redditor’s boyfriend has yet to catch on though, as they typically leave the pricey items at their parent’s home.
“He isn’t wealthy. He’s told me he makes around 60k and I don’t feel like letting him know what I make. I pay more of our dates but I usually split it and we never go anywhere fancy,” they added.
All this secrecy has actually left the partner with a lot of frustration.
“He’s been annoyed that I will never discuss money with him or really what I do for work,” they said, explaining that while they shared that their job is in tech, their boyfriend still doesn’t feel like it’s enough information.
They concluded, “I’m still trying to decide whether I should trust him with any more details around what I make since money immediately changes a lot of people’s behaviour. He’s gotten mad over this as he’s been trying to get me to disclose what I make and what exactly I do.”
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Internet labeled the OP TA
To the OP's surprise, the internet responded to the situation with surprise and blatantly called the OP TA for putting their partner in such a situation for one whole year and not even breaking it off if they don't trust the partner enough.
“You've been dating a year and he doesn't know what you do? Maybe he suspects something underworldly. Set the man's mind at ease. If you can't trust him after a year, aren't you wasting both your and his time? And if he changes once he knows, then you may be waited too long to disclose,”
Many pointed that the OP needs to break it off with the partner because clearly, he doesn't deserve this and the OP should definitely seek therapy for their issues before going into another relationship.
People expressed shock as to how OP can keep such an important part of her life hidden from their partner given the fact that we spend so much time consumed with our work.
Another replied in agreement, “We all spend such a huge amount of much time at work, it's literally a part of us...I can't imagine never telling my partner how work was and what happened. Or what I'm doing in general.”