World's Most Awful Mother Gives Son Receipt For Raising Him.

#1 You may never complain about your mom ever again, after reading this.

#2 The receipt was written in Vietnamese, the man who posted it translated it.

#3 The receipt reads as:

Receipt:

Education - 12 years - Free

Sickness - Whole life - Free

Worrying - Whole life -

Freelove - Whole life - Free

Total: FreeWaitress: MomP/s: I own you for the rest of your life. No matter how I abused or laughed at your pain, you have no way to escape. ( And I am so humble I called myself a waitress. And BTW, fuck your personal life and dream)

#4 The whole situation arose because the man wants to move to the U.S. with his fiancée (who his parents absolutely loathe) to pursue a career in CGI.

The guy wrote a whole long post about his predicament.

#5 He Wrote:

"I am really head clouded right now and hurt and confused as I have been for the last 5 years regarding my parents. We had a big fight last night and I almost threw myself out of the window. Now I am calmer but still hurt because I've finally realized my mom has a mental problem but she refuses to treat it."

TL;DR below

#6 Background:

"Before I start, just a quick reminder. This is Vietnam, we have no independence student's loan, support. Everything need to be provided by parents and the children have no right to talk back, let alone freedom. We can not walk out, there will be no support, from anywhere, no government, no support group, nothing. Student's part time job is normally USD$0,8 an hour."

#7

"My parents are true to every stereotype of Asian parents out there. Non-supportive, always demand you follow their path, disgrace everything you have done, hate you and your SO at a bottom of their heart while ranting that they love you. My mom is the one who has narcissistic here, she has always been disregarded by her mom and her siblings, although she is the smartest and richest one in the family. So partly I understand where her disorder came from, but still, she is projecting her wound onto me and forcing me to get hurt. My dad is a great guy, but not smart, great but not smart. He never supports family's psychological state and just laughs to push the problems aside. That's partly why my mom's illness manifested into a monster."

#8

"I left Vietnam when I was 17, went to New Zealand, learning at a school they picked for me, with the major that I've never liked. I am artistic and love drawing since I was really young, but they forced me down on to the economic career, because of money, that's why. I completed in 2,5 years and graduated with a great overall score. I've never been a great student but I completed what I have been asked for. They thought they drove me on their way and I am their scapegoat to manipulate me for the rest of my life. I was young and naive, I thought they were thinking the best for me at that time, but my, freedom is addictive."

#9

"One of their miscalculations is that I met my girlfriend, now my fiance. She is wild, gentle, smart, and caring. She showed me how I can be better than I've ever was, how I was a tiny child in a 20 years old man and controlled forcefully by my parents. I freed myself then, spend quality time following what I love, do what I want, with her, the woman of my life. We opened a food truck and traveled around NZ.

Then, that was the first time my parents showed their true face."

#10

"My mom was swearing, cursing, sending me and my GF harassing emails, messages. My dad swore to break my GF's arm and kill her if I continue going out with her. Before all of this shit storm, I asked for their help with the project, this was what I got in return. She pulled all of my funding and I was left with a minimum wage of the NZD$14.5/an hour (USD$10) and house, car, and everything else to cover, all of sudden to teach me a lesson of breaking free. To her surprise, I survived, with my GF by my side, we had minimum money and have to save up everything to pay all the bill. But it was freedom, sweet life, and I have never been that happy my whole life."

#11

"And talks about life, it works in a stupid way. Immigration came up and said we are not qualified to stay. Fine, we went home, and I have never truly lived in Vietnam anyway. I spent the first couple of months in my parent's house before moving to Saigon, the biggest city in Vietnam. In this period, they kept convincing me to go to the US to study. (actually to do some shady business)"

#12

"I became a university lecturer at the age of 21. And I taught my high school friends who wouldn't graduate for another 2 years. A university lecturer is a highly regarded job in Vietnam, anyone who has this job must be respectable and wise men according to the common folks. For me, it was just fun, and I enjoyed teaching a lot. I've never had any true friend in Vietnam due to my parents using umbrella strategy on me so it is wonderful to be with the college kids, many of them older than me. My GF is still with me, we have been through up and down, fighting our way together until now. She encouraged me to get back to the thing I love the most. Painting and drawing, and you bet I love it with a passion. I have worked hard, through many courses and self-taught session. Now I am a matte painter, concept artist by day and teacher by night. I earn enough money, not rich, but enough to enjoy life, vacation 3 times a year and follow what I love. Then there was this shit storm."

#13 Now:

"My fiance recently received her approval to move to the US. So I want to move with her. Before in lunar new year, mom told me she wanted me to go to the US to study, I agreed but I did not have the portfolio at that point so I need time to complete it. She promised that she would help and support my career. Now I have done the portfolio and my GF also has her visa almost done so I think it is the right time to go ahead.

We had a big fight yesterday. I came home to do some paperwork because of stupid bureaucracy in Vietnam. French in the East they say. So after dinner, I asked her for permission (more like a notice) and support to go to the state to study CGI, urged her to keep her promise.

She said "NO" despise her promise. Her argument is: I don't like you to be with that girl. Why? No reason, just don't like her."

#14

"Then she continues ranting on how my GF turned me away from her and she lost her grip. She said that she is UNDENIABLE right all the time and I was a shithead to follow my GF. What she did to me when I was in NZ was still hurt and scarred me for the rest of my life.

She said she needs me to come home straight away and spend the rest of my life with her. My dad said he rather has a gay son than me. (FYI, being homosexual is condemned publicly in Asian culture). Dad also swore to kill my GF even if he had to go to jail for that.

She told me I am a coward to follow my GF and everything I've done, my accomplishments ( without my mom involved) are rubbish comparing to them. They make $20,000 a day while I can't make that money in a year. ( in Vietnam, that is a big deal)

Everything she has done to me, I told her how much it hurt me. She said she has never done any of those things and lied right off the bat. She basically gaslights every harassment she has done to me. She has gone to all family members and told me how ungrateful brat I am so when I visited home, everyone harassed me and called me an idiot."

#15

"Anything I've done for myself or my fiance, my mom is envious of it. The reason she came up with is that I am doing all this fun, not for myself but to humiliate and reject her "love".

My mom is addicted to Facebook too. Every rumor, gossip, and lies on it are taken seriously by her. She trusts everything on FB. A lot of her "friends" are straight up liars, scammers, and people who took advantage of my mom weakness. She loves to be the center of attention. But when I speak up, saying that some friends of yours are notorious scammers, he shut me down and continued to talk to those people.

When I pushed her hard enough and cornered her between her arrogant and lies, you can guess what comes up! Heart attack it is! There!"

#16

"She laughed at my pain, she laughed when I told her how abusive she is, she laughed when I told her how my heart is tormented by her. She laughed in a sadist way and told me those feeling because I won't listen to her and I will continue to be hurt if I don't obey.

She told me she predicted my plan and she "won" because she understands me so much. She knew I convinced her to let me go to the US because I want to be with my fiance. She "won" and now I have to listen to her. What the fuck?"

#17

"Any criticism she received, from not only me but anyone else, she will refuse and turn her head away. I remember once my teacher told her I have potential to be great students but she had to let me live my life. On the next day, I was forbidden to go back to that extra class again because apparently to my mom, that teacher was "talkative". This happen when I was about 13 years old."

#18 In the end, she told me these things:

"She lost control over me, I am now my fiance's puppet.

I am not a man she wants, my accomplishments are utterly worse than horse shit to them. I am not an adult.

I am hurting her and everything she has done is the right thing.

She always love me ( This was repeated 20 times through out 2 hours of conversation)

She refused my help to remedy the problem. Her way is the only way.

She announced that she prefers to hurt both of us.

She wants my fiance gone, for good.

She stated that she would never change.

Everything that goes wrong, never her faults, someone else's faults."

#19

"After finding these arguments are dead-end, I was so much desperate and angry that I almost jump out of my window. I was having suicide thought at that point. Crazy, it was.

But after a few hours I calmed down and starts doing research, I saw this sub and the info fits every trait of my mom. It hit me hard but not to my surprise that my mom has a psychological disorder."

#20

"What next? I have come back to my home and talked a lot with my fiance. We will go out and meet my parents once more time, convince them to support us. Because, in the end, they are still parents and I would want to heal the wound if I had a chance. Two things could happen from now:

If she agrees to support me to the US, I would maintain a relationship with them and pursue my career further. But they will be still in my life.

If she disagrees, I would just hang around in Vietnam for another year until we can do the marriage visa. In this path, no more connections and contacts would be established between me and family, it would be just like I have never been around. And I think this is the best way as I can not stand anymore with their conservative, cruel, and narcissistic way of living. They would never hear from me again."

#21

"Parents are typical Asian parents and huge narcissistic traits, harass me in all way. Threaten to kill my GF.

Their way is the only way.

Promised to support my career choice to move to the US, but now flip the table and say no, because they don't like my fiance without any reason.

I will go to the US, one way or another, if they refuse to support, I will cut all ties with them as it is best for me and my fiance."

#22

"A narcissistic mom's love can manifest into a huge monster.

I am asking you guys to help me out with this:

Is there any way to help my parents get out of this? Would they ever change? Even with help of professional psychologist?

What else should I do, is there any problem you can point out for me that would remedy the situation.

Where can I seek a formal diagnosis?

Really thank you for your patience of reading this. I haven't been able to work properly today. Any thought on this matter would be appreciated too.

Anywhere it is confusing, please tell me and I am happy to explain further.

Edit:

She had sessions with voodoo doctor/monk to "cure" me from freedom. With strange powder and prayer, she tried. My mom works for an international company, goes abroad 5 times a year. Yet still, voodoo shit."

#23 Good luck to him and his fiancée.

I seriously hope he manages to develop a support group of friends that are much, much kinder to him than his mother.