Bad Husband? Wife Says She Won’t Cook For Husband Who Eats Female Coworker’s Meals Instead.

Reddit has quickly turned from community to advice column. The ever-popular subreddit called r/AITA has people sharing all sorts of events where people ask if they behaved in an assholish way.

This Redditor shared a story of when she stopped cooking for her husband. Trust us, it's weird.

Reddit user shares story of how her husband’s coworker cooks him meals and how she no longer feels like cooking for him if it’s going to be wasted. She also questions whether there are boundaries being crossed.

While we’ve all heard of work husbands and work wives, *barf*, this one kind of takes the cake.

“My husband (Jesse, 31) has been bringing home meals that his female coworker (Nelly) cook for him. Now I’m not the best cook and Jesse’s made it clear, but he still eats what I cook everyday. What I noticed with Nelly was that she tends to take every opportunity to point out how weak and tasteless my cooking is.

Jesse would say nothing except steer the conversation towards something else they both relate too while I’m sitting there wallowing in my misery thinking about what she said…(also she once asked what was another chore I was good at and Jesse said ironing his suits, she in response joked about having him send her a suit of his so he could see how good she is at ironing too. I rolled my eyes hard but at least Jesse agreed that was weird).”

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I mean wouldn’t a husband want to defend his wife if someone was being unnecessarily mean? Instead of nipping it in the bud, however, he was quite happy having a new candidate pitching for the role of a wife without the marriage certificate.

"Last week…Jesse came home with a new meal she cooked. I told him I already cooked dinner and asked what he was going to do with the meal. He told me he was going to eat it for dinner. Ngl I was getting a bit irritated and he must’ve had noticed because he said he promised Nelly he’d eat her for dinner, and that she asked him to take a pic of the ’empty plate’ later to confirm that he’d actually eaten it. I was baffled…like completely baffled at this."

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"I told him one thing and one thing only, told him that if he chose to eat Nelly’s meal over the dinner I cooked then THIS would be the LAST time I cook for him. He started moaning about how I was being unfair and putting him in a rough place. He stalled and didn’t give a clear answer til I saw him walk past me later when I set the table and prepared dinner. And put her meal in the microwave. I felt so awful, I almost cried. I then told him that from now on out I won’t cook for him anymore since he made his choice. I obviously pissed him off because he went off on me calling me childish and pathetic to make this about my ‘ego.’ I got up from my chair and told him I owed him NOTHING and that he made his decision and so did I.”

I barely even like my coworkers so cooking a meal for one is definitely shady as all hell. Girl, investigate.

The husband did not take kindly to her ultimatum and instead snapped at her.

“He snapped and said that this was ridiculous and that Nelly…was just doing a nice thing for him while as my behavior was disgraceful and disgusting. He then went into the bedroom and I rushed after him but he shouted ‘LEAVE ME THE F*CK ALONE‘  then proceeded to shut the door and hasn’t been speaking to me after that.”

Go on. Throw a tantrum when you’re in the wrong. It’s opposite day

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And of course, as is the norm with most momma’s boys, his mother came a-calling

“His mom knew about the argument and called begging me to be more patient and not make any decisions I might regret later. She agreed that Nelly was overstepping and firmly believes she’s the problem and so I shouldn’t be hard on her son. But Mil is incredibly biased, meaning in her eyes, her son is a saint who can do no wrong. So that’s that. I feel like I overreacted and really messed it up when I pushed him like that.”

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The husband, the coworker, and the mom need to be checked and the wife needs to take a good long vacation away from this mess.

Luckily, other Redditors agreed. This one said,

"NTA but you and your husband need to have a serious talk about boundaries in your marriage. The issue isn't the food- it is his creating a relationship with another woman, and being willing to hurt you to continue that relationship. This isn't a healthy friendship, and he is not being respectful of your marriage."

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Hubby dearest will also need to do a lot of work to gain that trust back.

"Hohohoho wait. I’m guessing when you’re not around she’s telling him she’s better at sex too.

She is trying to steal your hubby and by the sounds of it he’s eating out of her hand. Even your MIL sees it.

If I were you I’d either have a very long and hard talk with him or just pack your things and go.

He’ll either have to go to marriage counseling with you, completely block Nelly out from now on. Or just admit he’d rather be with her. But now he’s trying to have his cake and eat it too.

NTA. At all. Hubby is. And Nelly. But not you."

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Final consensus: It's not just the food that's fishy

"NTA. This is about more than just food. This is an emotional affair and a woman who tries to put you down at every turn."

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