Men Are Struggling To Understand Bedroom Kink That 'Millions Of Women Are Into'

It can be hard to keep up with every new sex trend people are talking about right now, if you’ll pardon the pun. Between new positions, new dating habits, and people being more open about what they enjoy, the bedroom conversation changes fast.

That may be helped by celebrities speaking more freely about sex than they used to. The world feels more sex-positive than ever in some ways, even if younger generations are bringing down the average numbers when it comes to how often people are having it.

But the rise of online sex sites and porn may also be part of the problem. A lot of men may think they know what women want, but porn does not always give a realistic idea of what actually feels good, welcome, or wanted in real life.

So, if this one has passed you by, it turns out millions of women are said to be into one very specific kink. The good news is that it does not involve anything too extreme or hard to understand.

It is not the sort of thing that requires a wild setup, a risky stunt, or anything like the more shocking scenes people may have seen Sydney Sweeney’s character doing in the latest season of Euphoria.

Instead, this trend is far more simple. It comes down to words, timing, and knowing how to make someone feel wanted without turning it into something awkward.

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In simple terms, a lot of women enjoy praise in the bedroom. For some people, being told they are attractive, wanted, or doing something well can be a major turn-on.

It can also stretch beyond sex for some people. Compliments, reassurance, and kind words in normal life can have the same kind of effect if that is what makes someone feel valued.

The idea is often called a praise kink, and it has become a huge topic online. It is less about doing something strange and more about using words in a way that feels intimate, confident, and personal.

'Who doesn't love being told that they're beautiful or hot or amazing in some way?'

Sex professor Dr Nicole K McNichols explained that the kink does not even need physical touch to matter. In a TikTok video, she said: "People who have praise kinks get turned on by their partner complimenting them during sex."

"Praise kink exists on a continuum of course, because, I mean, who doesn't love being told that they're beautiful or hot or amazing in some way?"

That is why the idea has connected with so many people. Most people enjoy feeling appreciated, but for those with a praise kink, those words can become a much stronger part of arousal and connection.

'Self-centred, slightly narcissistic, and probably a bit shameless'

Data columnist Jana Hocking has also said she is on board with the bedroom trend. And, to be fair, it is not hard to understand why someone might enjoy hearing that they are doing a good job.

Writing for the Daily Mail, she admitted that liking it might sound "horrendously self-centred, slightly narcissistic, and probably a bit shameless to admit to."

Still, she did not seem too worried about admitting it. Her point was that the trend may sound a little indulgent, but it also taps into something many people already enjoy.

"People who have praise kinks get turned on by their partner complimenting them during sex" Getty Stock Image

However, she said she is "very much on board with it," adding: "It has had a whopping 60 million views on TikTok so clearly I'm not the only one lapping it up."

She continued: "The kink involves people who get off on hearing how wonderful they are (especially in the bedroom)."

"So if you are like me and you go a bit wild when your fella calls you a 'good girl' while getting it on between the sheets... welcome, you are part of the 'praise kink' tribe."

Another TikToker also connected the trend to how people like to receive love and affection, saying: "So I've been seeing that it's been trending on TikTok that... a lot of girls are realising that they have a praise kink."

"Just to let you know, if you have a praise kink, you probably have words of affirmation in your top two love languages."

So, the next time things are going well in the bedroom, it may be worth remembering that words can matter just as much as actions. As long as it feels natural and both people are comfortable, a little praise might go a long way.