This Dating Coach Says Men Should Pay When They Ask You Out On A Date

The rules of dating are always in flux and are sometimes more difficult to understand than Egyptian hieroglyphs. This time around, the people of TikTok have been debating whether or not a man should pay the entire bill when it comes to dating.

The conversation was prompted by dating coach Nelly on TikTok who says that when men ask women out on dates, they are expected to pay the bill. She presented this opinion after stitching the video with that of a man calling women ‘entitled’ for expecting men to pay the bill.

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@ask.nelly said, “It is so repulsive when men talk like that, but let me provide a little refresher on how dating works ‘cause clearly some people need it."

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“So if a man is asking a woman out on a date and he is romantically interested in her, obviously, and he’s not picking up the bill, it’s not that she’s entitled. It is, though, one of these five things: number one, he’s not chivalrous, he’s not a gentleman.

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"Number two, he’s cheap. Number three, he can’t afford the date."

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"Number four, he doesn’t respect women and number five, he doesn't see her a prize to be won, because a man’s level of interest is always correlated to his level of effort. It’s always one of those five things.”

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The caption to her video read, “Entitlement is when men ask women out and don’t pay.”

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People in her comments were rather split down the middle with some extreme opinions on both ends of the spectrum.

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Some women said that splitting the bill was a deal-breaker for them.

“If a guy says ‘let’s split’, I say, ‘no thanks, I got it’ and that is the end.”

Another said that the rule only stands for the first date.

“If you want to split bills later down the road, it’s another convo but if the guy asks you on the first date he must pay.”

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Some defended men who didn’t want to pay the bill on a date. “Missed his point. No man owes you anything just like you don’t owe him anything. Especially if you don’t know each other.”

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One person suggested that the person who asks is the one that is responsible for the bill.

“I think the one who is asking the other person out should pay."

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