10 Scary Signs Your Man Is Living A Secret Life

People can be so good at hiding a secret of that magnitude that sometimes there really are not. But other times, those leading double lives do have a pattern of behavior -- one you may not recognize as deceptive until it's too late. Here are 10 signs your partner could be living a secret life.

#1 Your Gut Reminds You That Something Is Wrong

A gut feeling can be as subtle as your stomach tightening when your man tells you where he's been all night. Or general anxiety about your relationship. Or just a feeling that's he's being disconnected emotionally from you.

#2 They Disappear And Travel A Lot

Watch if he checks in at the same time each day when he's away -- and what happens if you try to vary the routine. If he always calls you first, he may be trying to preempt you calling him because he'll be "busy" later. Try getting in touch with him when he doesn't expect it. If you get a negative reaction like, "Why are you bothering me now?" then that's a clue something could be up.

#3 Their Unreasonable Boundaries

Someone who is constantly putting hard boundaries in place might have something to hide. Maybe you can't visit his hometown or meet his parents. Maybe he refuses to acknowledge you on Facebook. Perhaps he won't let you see bank, credit card, or retirement fund statements. Or maybe you're not allowed to go into his basement/office/den/shed for even the briefest of times.

#4 They Don't Answer Direct Questions

Refusal to answer point-blank questions can also come into play with the phenomenon known as gaslighting, in which he uses tactics to make his significant other sound crazy. So if you express concern about something, he may reply, "I can't believe you're so paranoid," or "You really need to learn to trust me."

#5 They Lie

While unfortunately not everyone who leads a double life will be caught in their lies, others will. Lying is a big clue that something is amiss.

#6 They Exhibit Confusing Sexual Partners

People who lead secret lives are often controlling, and sex can be a way of controlling you -- not only by having it, but also by withholding it.

#7 They Blurt Out The Truth

Strangely, people leading a double life will sometimes tell you about it by mistake.

#8 They Keep Secrets

Smaller secrets can be covering up bigger ones. Secret credit cards, cellphones, email accounts, second mortgages, etc., can all be signs of a double life. Especially if, when you ask about these things, you get a nonsensical or suspicious explanation.

#9 They Have Confusion Abot Details

This is when a guy might say something like, "This reminds me of that time we were in Colorado," and yet you've never been to Colorado with him. If you confront him, he's likely to have some strange answer like, "No, I meant when we do go there; I always wanted to go there." Chances are he's confusing you with someone else.

#10 Your Friends Or Family Don't Like Them

People who care about us are often able to get a better read on a man we're in a romantic relationship with than we can. We're blinded by love, hormones, hope, faith, trust. They are not. It might seem unfair and hurtful if the people you love don't like your guy, but it could be a sound warning.

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