10 Signs He's A PSYCHO

#1 He's So Charming

Every girl is looking for Prince Charming and a man who knows how to say just the right things is pretty charming. Psychopaths can read you like a book and can serve up flattery at an alarming rate. Psychopaths move extremely quickly. On the first date, he’ll probably tell you that you are stunningly beautiful, unbelievably intelligent, and uproariously witty. He will play into every fantasy and insecurity you have. If you think you’re fat, he will tell you how much he loves your body. If you think you’re shy, he will laugh at every lame attempt at a joke and tell you that you should have been a comedian. This is called “love bombing.” This attention keeps you in his grip.

#2 He's Your Soul Mate

Sure they can really fall in love, but a true psychopath will try to convince you that you are soul mates, just alike, should always be together. He loves all the things you love and you have all of the same interests. If you had a tough childhood, he will say something like, “We both had it rough. That’s why we understand each other.” If there’s an obscure book you love, he will make sure he loves it too. What he’s doing is called “mirroring.” He has no real identity, so he sucks yours up and mirrors it back to you. He gets way too serious too soon by convincing you that you're soul mates.

#3 He's Great In Bed

This is one of their tricks. They use it to manipulate you later. Everyone wants great sex, but those who have been with a psychopath often say it’s the best thing they’ve ever experienced. A psychopath goes out of his way to please you. It’s just another way of getting you hooked. Once he has you hooked, you’ll find yourself begging for sex because he suddenly won’t want it anymore. That's his trick, to keep you needing and wanting him.

#4 He's So Much Fun

He's so much fun, always the life of the party, keeping you on your toes, and never turns down an adventure. Nothing gets him down or shatters him since psychopaths have no anxiety or conscience. So if he insists he is always happy, that's a big red flag that he really isn't.

#5 He's Full Of Tall Tales

Psychopaths are great talkers.They open up fast and love to hear juicy stories so they can incorporate them into their own fabrications. They love drawing you in with a good tale. He'll be quick to tell you his life story and open up about all sorts of things. But most of these tales will sound a bit too far fetched to believe. They don't always stack up and can sometimes come across as exaggerated.

#6 He Makes You Feel Sorry For Him

Pay careful attention to what a psychopath says on the first few dates about his exes and other people in his life. Is his ex-girlfriend crazy and stalking him? Did another girlfriend rob him blind? Is his mother controlling and horrible? Does he seem like he’s had a tough time with people, who always use and abandon him? Whatever he says about the other people in his life is pretty much exactly what he’ll be saying about you at some point, so listen carefully.

Psychopaths absolutely love pity, so pay attention to how many illnesses and injuries he’s had. Did he miraculously beat cancer but it could come back at any minute? Does he break his foot on your second date and has to cancel? (But strangely is okay for the third date?) Did he lose his first wife in a car accident that left him with brain trauma (yet he talks fine and seems fine)? Try to check out his stories — call hospitals if you need to — but don’t be surprised if he has an excuse for why you can’t find any record of any of his traumas.

#7 He Gives You The Silent Treatment

Once psychopaths have you hooked after the “love bombing” and “idealization” phase, they then begin to devalue you. The first step in that is usually to give you the silent treatment over something. Psychopaths are also known to disappear for days at a time. Be sure, the silent treatment and disappearing act will be laid squarely at your feet. In reality, he is off sizing up his next target somewhere. You might start to realize that he is not quite what you thought he was after all.

#8 He'll Try To Make You Jealous

Once he has you obsessed, he'll turn the tables on you. Psychopaths love to work you up into a state of obsessive frenzy, so to do that, they idealize you, give you fabulous sex, and then begin pulling away and “triangulating.” This is when they introduce other people into the mix to make you jealous. It could be an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend, a friend of the same sex, or even a celebrity. In the psychopath's mind, everyone else wants him, so you better be on your best behavior, or he will move on to one of his adoring fans.

#9 His Masks Begins To Crack

A psychopath will sometimes blurt out something odd about himself, apropos of nothing. Like you might be cooking dinner and suddenly he blurts, “I’m crazy you know.” Or “I’m cheating on you.” He will then either deny he said it or play it off as a joke. A form of keeping you off balance — but also possibly an unconscious slip of the mask of his persona.

#10 He Drops You Suddenly

After all that attention and love, it's hard to believe he no longer wants anything to do with you. The final phase of the psychopath is the “discard” phase. After he sucks you in with idealization, then begins to devalue you, he will suddenly discard you as if you never had a relationship. You are suddenly completely worthless to him. He will usually move on to another target at this point. He may be on to another target and won't feel any guilt or compassion about what he's done.

#11 He Tries To Win You Back

If he thinks you've moved on and are not the least bit upset over the split, he'll begin to try and win you back just to make himself feel like a winner. Although a psychopath will discard you, he doesn’t quite want you moving on either. If he senses you are done with him, he will suddenly do an about-face, and begin bombarding you with pleas to stay together. He will try to “Hoover” (named after the vacuum cleaning company) you back in by saying everything you’ve ever wanted to hear, making a million promises, and suddenly being on his absolute best behavior. It’s all an act so he can get you back into the fold.

#12 Cut All Contact

Once you've discovered all of his manipulative ways and realize that you've been dating a psycho, just cut the ties, lose his number, forget his name, and never make contact again. He's probably already with some other 'soul mate' anyway. The only way to get rid of a psychopath is to completely go no contact. It’s the only thing that doesn’t fuel his games and ego.