If your wife has turned into No-Nookie of the North, goddess of the frozen tundra, the problem may be emotional rather than physical, according to recent Kinsey Institute research. The study also suggests that in any given month, nearly one-quarter of women will report some sexual distress. "When a woman feels dissatisfied, it's very rarely in one realm," says Scott Haltzman, M.D., a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry and human behavior at Brown University. Here are some clues she's not happy.
advertisement
#1 She Pulls Away from Your Children
She may resist caring for the kids because she's hoping you might notice that her needs aren't being met.
"What she's doing is asking you to talk."
#2 The Credit-Card Bill is Higher
Some women resort to shop therapy to fulfill themselves.
advertisement
#3 She's Gained Weight
Women will over-compensate for the lack of sex by eating more to feed their sexual hunger.
#4 She's Working or Drinking More
It may be an attempt to disconnect from you.
advertisement
#5 She Lets Snide Comments Slip Out in Conversations with Friends
She's telling you something's wrong.
advertisement
#6 You Catch Her Masturbating
If she's having sex solo more often than usual, it's a sign that you're not taking care of all her sexual needs. "Ask for directions. If she's shy about talking, say, 'I know that I'm not pleasing you, but I want to please you. Is this what you like?'"
advertisement
#7 She's Turned into a Vixen
If she's bringing home sex toys or suggesting you rent videos, it may mean she thinks the old pattern isn't doing it for her anymore.
advertisement
#8 She's Turned into a Cold Fish
Not moving much during sex and being less responsive are obvious withdrawal signals. "The only way to know what's up is to talk."
advertisement
#9 She's Looking Hotter Lately
She's sending the message that she's a sexual being, because she thinks you're missing it.
advertisement
#10 She's More Critical of You
It could mean you aren't paying attention to her outside the bedroom. "Satisfaction comes from being respected, loved, appreciated, and desired—emotionally and physically.
