10 Signs That Your Boyfriend Isn’t Ready To Be A Husband

#1 He still wastes too much time playing video games.

Video games are a great way to manage stress and just escape the harsh realities of the world. But if he’s spending too much time in front of the console, then you’re practically getting married with a teenager. He needs to learn how to manage his time better.

#2 If he is evasive about the future and doesn't talk or want to chat about getting married, he is not ready to take the plunge.

These sometimes uncomfortable conversations are necessary to have if there is going to be a future. If talking about jobs, travel, family and any subject of that nature is taboo, he is not ready. You may be anxious to get married, but if you push it, things won't change. But with the right guy, they will have no problems planning for the future and it won't be like pulling teeth.

#3 He Hasn't Introduced You To His Family

Mara Opperman, relationship etiquette expert said, "When your partner is serious about you, they want to bring you into their world and show you off to people that are closest to him/her. By not introducing you to their family, they're essentially saying they don't see you being in their future. In my opinion, if you want a long-lasting relationship, it is important to find a partner that wants you to have a publicly shared life."

#4 He cant make big decisions

His reluctance to marry might not be about you at all. If he can't decide on, say, what career path he wants to follow or where he wants to live, he probably doesn't know himself well enough to settle down yet.

#5 He never makes you feel like you can be comfortable with being yourself.

You don’t want to be enduring a feeling of discomfort throughout your entire life. When you get into a long-term relationship with a man, he should always make you feel like you can be comfortable in your own skin. He should be accepting of who you really are as a person.

#6 When he talks about his future he doesn't talk about you.

In 10 years he wants to be a CEO with a huge yacht and a leash-trained lion named Simba. Great. As he's musing out loud about these plans, does he speculate on how you'll fit in? If he's talking about moving to São Paulo, does he ask if you like warm weather? Because these things matter. Even if he's just joking around, it's a bad sign if he constantly talks about his future self as a lone wolf—unless, of course, you're the lion on the leash, which would make for some very strange role-playing.

#7 He has trust issues

I don’t need to spend much time talking about the importance of trust in a relationship — we’re all aware of that. The problem here comes in when your partner is faced with some trust issues from his or her past, perhaps making it difficult to commit to you in the future. Essence said if your partner is having trouble breaking past that ability to trust you (even if you, personally, have never done anything to make them question your faithfulness), it’s a sign they’re certainly not ready for marriage.

#8 He is not ready for the financial responsibility it takes to be married.

There is nothing wrong with this as long as it is not an excuse to not get married. "It repeatedly tells the woman that this decision isn’t hers. Instead, it is when he is ready," the Huffington Post reported. If you are constantly hearing that he is not in a place to get married, this will keep you in limbo forever and forget this. You need to set a limit of how long you are willing to wait for him.

#9 He Despises Going To Weddings

According to Madame Noire, if your partner hates attending weddings, it could be a sign they are not ready for their own. Oppositely, though, the outlet noted if your partner is becoming more open to weddings than ever before, it might mean that they're becoming more open to the idea of marriage.

#10 He is financially irresponsible.

You don’t want to be inheriting another person’s debts or financial liabilities. You always want to make sure that when you marry a guy, he is financially stable and responsible. If he still keeps spending his money on pointless toys and shallow pleasures, then he really isn’t ready for the financial struggles that marriage can bring.

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