10 Signs You Are Dating An Highly Sensitive Over-Thinker

“The sharpest minds often ruin their lives by overthinking the next step, while the dull win the race with eyes closed,” wrote Bethany Brookbank. Here are some things that are helpful to know if you're dating an over-thinker.

#1 Say What You Mean

When you text, just say exactly what you mean. Word choicely is important to an over-thinker. Speak with as much clarity as you can.

#2 Finds meaning in everything

They try to find meaning in anything possible. If you say something and that remains unexplained they are going to stress over it until things get sorted.

#3 They need all the details

Details are important to an over-thinker. They don’t appreciate it when you withhold information. Their over-active imaginations can’t handle all the possibilities, they need the real story. Their mind is already playing games with them. They don’t need you to do the same.

#4 They are the critical thinker.

That usually ends up with their minds playing out a bunch of horrible scenarios in which you’ve cheated or died. So when they call or text you, just text them back.

#5 They can be hypersensitive.

A friendly reminder that "Hey, you're really obsessing about this and it's bringing you down" is helpful and needed sometimes, but be sure to not be too harsh. Over-thinking is a form of anxiety and anxiety isn't something that magically goes away if you ask it to. Trust me, I've tried.

#6 They will ask more questions

It can be easy to take these as accusations. Don’t worry – they’re not. Over-thinkers just need more information than others do to feel secure.

#7 You’ll be getting a lot of screenshots and vivid details.

Take it as a compliment. It means they trust you with their rich inner worlds and value your opinion.

#8 They admit when they’re wrong

They know their shortcomings and how they might affect the people they love. Therefore, they have no problem apologizing if they hurt friends and partners by letting their wild imaginations bring them to the wrong conclusions!

#9 They weigh pros and cons in all situations.

They try to make it a point that all the pros and cons of the situation have been addressed and what needs more of their attention.

#10 They appreciate good things

An over-thinker will always notice and appreciate the good things that you do. They are unlikely to take your good intentions for granted. In fact, they might appreciate you like nobody else ever can.

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