10 Things To Help Get Over Being Dumped By Mr. Wrong
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Breakups suck, but you can overcome them! We know it's extremely hard and life as you know it no longer makes sense without this person, but you are more than capable of finding your happiness.
Here are 10 important tips to help you survive a bad breakup.
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#1 DONOT REBOUND
Take a break from dating. Don't just jump into dating again until you're ready and have had some "me" time to heal your heart. A rebound date might be a good ego boost in the moment, but for long-term happiness, you want to make sure you're totally over your ex before you fall in love again. People think rebounding is going to help cure their broken hearts, but it's not at all. Rebounds are temporary and if you do something you regret there's no going back.
Now that's not saying, if someone nice comes along that wants to take you out you say no. You should totally go out and enjoy a possible new friend and a free dinner. (Haha!)
#2 Go out and have fun
When you're going through a hard time, call on the people that are always there for you. Nothing will restore your confidence better than having friends who love and support you remind you just how awesome you are. Go out and meet new people. You'd be surprised, the times when you really don't want to go out, you end up having the most memorable nights.
Go out for drinks, eat delicious food and dance the night away to music that will take your mind to a better place.
#3 Watch your favorite TV show or movie
Here's an easy task to put you in an instant good mood: Spend a lazy Sunday binge-watching whatever TV shows or movies make you laugh.Create a playlist! Perk up your mood with a breakup playlist full of your favorite, confidence-boosting songs.
#4 Focus on your goals
Take on a new project at work. Find something you've always wanted to accomplish at work and make it happen! This has two benefits: First, you'll be so busy throwing yourself into work you're passionate about, you'll be too busy to think about being heartbroken. Second, when you accomplish that goal and get kudos for it at work you'll feel like the rockstar you are.Being in a relationship can have a tendency of shaking your focus on certain goals you have. This is understandable and happens to everyone, it doesn't mean you were being lazy. It just means you were putting in the time and effort to make the relationship thrive and therefore weren't giving your goals the 100% attention they should've been getting.
Take this time to keep busy, keep focused and get things done. Try writing down your goals in a journal and what you're going to do to accomplish them. Get reacquainted with your ambitions.
#5 Make a List of Positive Things
Sit down and write a list of 50 things you like about yourself. They can be qualities you see in yourself or special talents. Make sure you complete the list. I'm sure there are actually more than 50; however, you may be struggling to see positive attributes in yourself right now so make a commitment to finish the list.
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#6 Two words: retail therapy.
Update your wardrobe to go with this new chapter in your life. If you're feeling up for it, find an outfit that is perfect for a date it will inspire you to feel excited about new romantic possibilities on the horizon.
#7 Pamper yourself.
Heartbreak literally hurts your heart, but it's something you can conquer! You need to get out of your 2-day-old PJs, shower and go out to pamper yourself. Get a massage, manicure/pedicure, get those brows on fleek again and even get a sexy blowout. Try to stay away from dyeing or cutting your hair when you're in such a vulnerable stage, you'll regret it.
#8 Take an extreme halt to posting any sad sub-tweets or sad memes, but do post happy pictures of yourself. If you've done all of the steps so far, then it's time for a beautiful selfie!
#9 Unplug to reconnect.
This next step is for your own good! Spying on what your ex is posting is only going to drive you insane, so why torture yourself (unless you're a masochist). Unfollow, unfriend and block your ex from all your social media sites.
This is not only going to help ease your mind and heart, but why should they be able to see what 'newly single' you is up to! Another thing to consider is if you also follow their friends, you don't need to have pictures or snaps of them popping up, making your heart stop.
Even better, try a social media cleanse. Take the time to unplug so that you can reconnect with the most important person in your life, you! Set a time goal for yourself, sign out, delete the apps off your phone and just focus on making your heart, mind and soul healthier. We promise you will in fact feel more connected than ever not only to yourself, but to the most important people in your life.
#10 Exercise.
Get those endorphin going! Exercising will leave you feeling healthy and mentally charged and you'll look good too.
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Don't bottle in your emotions, let them out. Scream, yell and do a JT, cry yourself a river!
It's okay to have a total meltdown, but make sure that meltdown doesn't drag on for weeks. Let's be honest here, it's going to feel like someone ripped out your heart and threw it in a blender. Take a few days to stay at home to cry, eat junk food and take bubble baths. Gather your thoughts, but don't let them drown you.
Tell yourself you're beautiful, you deserve someone who is going to value you, you gave it your all and you're going to get through this. This person may have broken your heart, but they haven't broken who you are as a person. The only person who is going to pick up the pieces and make them fit perfectly back together is you!
