14 Consequences You Need To Remember Before Cheating On Your Partner

#1 You will become a liar

It's bad enough to bear the title of "Cheater," but if you cheat, you will also wear the hat of "Liar." Cheating cannot occur without deceit on some level and normally the white lies in the beginning become full-fledged lies at the end.

#2 You will get caught

It may not be today. It may not be tomorrow. But eventually, your affair will come to light. Your world will come crashing down on you. If you are fortunate, the story of your indiscretion may avoid the evening news or the front page of your local paper, but your circle of friends will know your deeds. And everyone likes to share juicy news.

#3 You will disappoint everyone

Everyone. Your spouse. Your friends. Your co-workers. Your God. Your parents. Your nephew. Your children. Yourself. The disappointment you cause will be like the stench of skunks and it will take a long time to remove the smell.

#4 You will be a bad example

Everyone is either a good example or a bad example in all things that we do. Cheating is not only a very bad example in relationships but brings with it a cloud of doubt that hovers over you in other areas of your life. If you cheated in one area, would you cheat in another? Cheating communicates to everyone that you took the easy road. It tells others that you were willing to cut corners in your most primary relationship. It reveals that you were not willing to do the hard work and get the help you needed. No one ever admires a cheater. No one looks up to an adulterer. Even if you did a lifetime of good, this one bad deed can erase it all.

#5 You will lose your moral authority

It's hard to tell your children (or others) to do the right thing when they know you didn't. Saying "Do as I say, not as I do" is the fastest way to lose the respect of others. Not only will you lose their respect, you'll lose yours. Every moral judgment you make in the future will be weighed against your adulterous action of the past. It doesn't mean you can't speak the truth in the future, it just means that few will listen to you.

#6 You will create trust issues for your spouse

You will single-handedly damage the precious self-esteem of the one you promised to love. Every relationship they have after you will be one that they struggle to trust. If that were not enough, you will rock the world of children and cause them to question the stability of every meaningful relationship they have. For children, their parents' relationship is their anchor and cheating cuts the line.

#7 You will lose your standard of living

Depending on what you do for a living, you may lose your job. Many lose their home. Most end up with enormous court fees since cheating is usually the precursor to divorce. Betrayed spouses have a way of making you pay and that payment is always expensive. Every check you write is a constant reminder of your foolishness.

#8 You will spend years trying to rebuild your life

Literally years. Even if you somehow weathered the storm financially, you will find it takes years for you to recover emotionally. It takes years for you to restore certain friendships, if you even do. It takes years for you to rebuild your character. It takes years to rebuild trust. It takes years to truly forgive yourself.

#9 You will lose relationships

You will lose a LOT of relationships. Lifelong friends will walk away. Close friends that you have helped countless times will not be around to help you. Even some family members who are supposed to love you no matter what will vanish. A cheater can end up living a very lonely life. It's hard for many people who used to call you friend to get past that skunk smell of disappointment.

#10 You will increase your chances of getting an STD

Sexually transmitted diseases run rampant among promiscuous people. But your paramour is "clean," right? After all, they told you so. And if there is one thing we all know – we can trust a cheater and their word. As the saying goes, "There is honor among thieves." One helpful thought may be to assume that everyone but your spouse has an STD. That should curb your appetite for destruction.

#11 Would you want this done to you?

Thieves like to steal wallets but hate when it's done to them. If we all lived by the Golden Rule ("Treat others the way you want to be treated.") most of life's problems would be solved overnight. Think about this action as if it were being done to you. The problem is that it requires thought and thinking is often the last thing a cheater has on his/her mind.

#12 The grass is not greener on the other side

The "grass is greener" idea is a common misconception. Because we have never been on that grass, we assume it must be better than where we currently stand. It's not. In fact, though it may look greener from a distance – once you get there and make yourself comfortable, something interesting happens – the grass changes color. This usually happens soon after you get caught.

#13 You will eventually regret this decision

In the heat of the moment, cheating appears to make sense. It feels good and sometimes even feels right. Feelings are deceitful. Soon afterward, your eyes will be opened and you will regret that you ever partook of the forbidden fruit. Don't we all have enough regrets in our lives? Why add another one – particularly one that can only destroy everything you have worked so hard to build? Your home may not be perfect but it sure beats living in a tent.

#14 The pain outweighs the gain

No one ever says from their deathbed, I wish I would have had an affair. No one ever leaves their lawyer's office with a smile on their face – grateful for the experience. No one loses dear friends and is glad they have one less Christmas card to receive this year. The loss is immeasurable. The pain can be unbearable. Entire kingdoms can be lost for a few minutes of pleasure. It is just not worth it.

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