15 Surprising Things Your First *Grown-Up* Relationship Teaches You!

#1 You shouldn’t need to track each other

Trusting your significant other is important, because that is what builds the foundation of your relationship. In a strong relationship, you don’t necessarily need to keep a constant watch on each other or ever have the need to check his phone.

#2 Keep the past in the past

Don’t bring it up in conversations. His past might or might not be similar to yours. He may have been in a serious relationship, or might even have had a few insignificant flings. But if you both are happy together right now, all of that shouldn’t bother you.

#3 ‘Compromise’ is not a bad word

And the little things you do or don’t do to keep each other happy? Yeah, they’re compromises, but they’re also small gestures that make your significant other feel loved.

#4 The little things ‘matter’

The excitement of big, snazzy gifts fades after a point. Nothing feels as special as a surprise breakfast in bed, a long car drive or just a surprise date night!

#5 Every fight doesn’t lead to a breakup

You can argue, disagree on things and even express your disapproval loudly, but it will not lead to a breakup. Either you two make up or agree to disagree, but that’s that!

#6 Every misfit has a perfect fit

Did you always think you were the only weird person you knew? Do you have quirks like talking to yourself constantly, imagining a day that might never come or visualising yourself amidst dragons and butterflies? Well, when in a serious relationship, you find out about his fictional characters and quirks and love them as much as you love him!

#7 You don’t have to dress to impress

Having a ‘no bath day’ and lazing around in your PJs together is not just okay but absolutely normal. You don’t have to look prim and proper or perfect every time you step out to meet him.

#8 You become each other’s career counsellors

He’s the first person you call if you’re in need of advice, and you’re the first person he wants to talk to. You both know each other’s strengths, weaknesses and can help solve each other’s major career dilemmas.

#9 Your independence...is yours

It’s a tough balance to create, but an important one. You learn to find a way so that he cares about your safety but at the same time, isn’t overprotective. It never works well when he curbs you from doing something you want to.

#10 An apology doesn’t have to be a sorry

You don’t always have to say sorry when you’re feeling apologetic. Sometimes, you end up saying it with little gestures - by giving him a big hug or making him his favourite meal!

#11 You learn how to share your life

No, that doesn’t mean our partner's life becomes our whole world. You have your own life, he has his and you’re both happy to be sharing it with each other.

#12 Healthy competition is great!

It’s good to get competitive as it nurtures you to grow better as an individual, in your career or if you’re looking to develop an extra skill set. It could be anything - from a golgappa eating competition to a friendly game of Pictionary!

#13 It’s not necessary to celebrate every tiny milestone

You don’t have to remember your first kiss or the day you met…If your love is constant, you don’t need occasions or dates to celebrate it!

#14 Love is meant to be easy

Something you learn over time, a relationship should feel natural. It doesn’t have to involve too many fights, compromises or sacrifices.

#15 You want to put in the effort

Even if you aren’t constantly thinking or talking about marriage, you know you eventually want to settle down with that person. So you find yourself putting in some real effort to making things work!

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15 Surprising Things Your First Grown-Up Relationship Teaches You!