Bride Divorces Husband A Day After Wedding, Realizes The Obvious Red Flags She’s Been Ignoring

One of a person's happiest days in life is intended to be their wedding day.

Unfortunately, in some instances, it turns into a memory they would rather forget.

One lady who divorced her spouse only 24 hours after exchanging vows has won praise for doing so because he didn't respect her boundaries.

The 27-year-old woman stated that she had been in a relationship with her future ex-husband for three years before joyfully accepting his proposal.

She begged him not to smash their $500 wedding cake in her face when it was time to cut the cake in the weeks leading up to their wedding.

She stated on Reddit: "I have never known him to be selfish, occasionally immature, yes, but even that was rare.”

"These problems arose when those stupid cake-smashing videos got popular and my husband thought they were hilarious. I've never thought they were funny and he knows that, yet he was always showing me the videos of those poor wives getting the happiest day of their life ruined by their a***hole partner for some cheap laughs. He also knows I have a history with cake smashing."

She continued by describing how her mother "ruined" her 17th birthday by smashing the cake in her face and slicing open her forehead with an improperly placed decoration.

"My family does the cake-smashing thing. I remember it was my 17th birthday and I pleaded with my mum to not do it," she added.

"She promised and I trusted her. I had my hair and makeup done up all nice and right as I blew out my candles my mum pushed my head into the cake and one of the decorations on the cake ended up slicing my forehead. Not enough to go to the hospital but enough for some substantial bleeding. My birthday was ruined and after I wouldn't come out of my room. My mum still calls me a brat for that.”

"I told him if he ever did something like that to me I'd leave him. He started laughing but I was being for real. Though he really was not taking me seriously."

Even though he knew she would be offended, he nevertheless chose to smash the cake in her face on the wedding day.

She walked out of her own wedding out of wrath, called an Uber, and went back to their shared house to pack her things.

She said: "Everything was perfect, I was happy, he was happy. I was excited about our new lives as newlyweds. I felt like a princess in my poofy white dress and done-up hair with perfect make-up. All very expensive things I would like to mention.”

"We get to the cake-cutting part and as I turn to him he scoops up a huge chunk of our wedding cake and smashes it all over my face. Everything just seemed to go in slow motion for a few moments. He's just laughing at me, and then says, 'You should see your face' and continues to laugh. Other people in the crowd (mostly my family) are also laughing at me.”

"Then I just start walking away, he realizes that I'm leaving and tries to catch up with me and says I'm being extra. I push him away and order an Uber. As I got outside most of the crowd was following me telling me to come back. I get into the Uber and drive away."

Her phone was flooded with missed calls and unread texts from her husband, family, and his family pleading with her to go back to the wedding and apologize for her outburst.

Additionally, she said: "My husband has been calling me off the hook telling me to please come home and that he wants to talk. That he's sorry and didn't think I'd get that 'emotional'.”

"This was supposed to be the happiest day of our lives and he embarrassed me in front of everyone for some prank that he knew I hated. Not only that, he ruined a $500 cake. He ruined my makeup, my hair, and the top of my dress. The cake got all over."

After spending the night in a hotel, the woman made the decision to file for divorce because she thought that if he didn't honor one simple rule during their first few hours of marriage, things would only become worse.

"I decided to speak to him bright and early this morning. I'm leaving him," she said.

"I decided to call him and get his reasoning for why he did what he did. He told me he just thought it was a funny prank and that if it was at the wedding on a happy day he could change my mind. Plus since it was a tradition in my family that I wasn't following, he thought that he could get points with my family. Then told me he's sorry that I took it as a disrespect.”

"I told him he shouldn't be saying that 'he's sorry that I took it that way'. He should be apologizing for hurting me. Where is the "I'm sorry"?

I told him he hadn't apologized with accountability once. All his 'apologies' have been backhanded.

"I also reminded him that I didn't have a good relationship with most of my family nor my mother who he forced me to invite. I told him he knew I was already the black sheep of my family and the verbal abuse and public humiliation I received from my mother for years really messed with me and he knew that. Then he says, 'Why should I have to apologize because you can't take a joke'."

Her decision to divorce him and avoid touch with her own family was further cemented as a result of their heated disagreement over this.

She added: "I blew up, I told him 'Are you serious, if it was me who hurt you to this degree the first thing I'd do is apologize, while you can't even force yourself to be decent for a few seconds and just apologize to me'.”

"I also told him that he was trying to get in good with a family who abused me by publicly humiliating me and that is something that is unforgivable. Marriage means you stick by me, yet you showed you obviously do not. It's not about you ruining my dress or my hair or even the cake, it's about how you knew how I felt about this and the trauma I had connected and you didn't care.”

"He then tried doubling down and saying it wasn't his fault for not apologizing because my family was telling him how dramatic I was and how I was hurting them by leaving the wedding for a joke. He said he loves me and he doesn't want to break up over this nonsense and that I should just come home.”

"I told him I wasn't coming home and it wasn't even about the cake anymore, it's because I cannot be with a man who won't apologize when he's wrong and who gaslights their significant other into receiving the blame. He started cursing me out at this point but after about a minute of hearing him scream at me I hung up.”

"I guess he started telling my family because within half an hour my phone was blowing up again. The worst ones had to be from my mother and his sister. My mother was telling me I was going to end up alone because I couldn't take jokes and I'd never be able to keep a man with my attitude. Even saying that my clock is running out fast and when it did no one will want me and I'll be alone."

Some users advised her to talk to a therapist about all that happened, but the majority of users complimented her for sticking up for herself.

One user said: "The stuff from her mum is so illuminating. No wonder she didn’t see the red flags on this guy, she’s been living with red flags her whole life."

Another user added: "Poor girl is so traumatized she thought this guy was worth marrying." A third user said: "She honestly deserves better. The husband is a really terrible person for treating her the way he does. I understand cake smashing is fun for some but I never really understood the popularity why cake smashing is a thing. I always found it to be kind of nonsense and a waste of good cake."

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