Comedian Opens Up On Her Struggles As A 36-Year-Old Virgin

A 35-year-old singleton mentioned that she frequently experiences ghosting from men when she tells them she's a virgin and intends to wait until marriage before having sex.

Sonali Chandra, a dancer and comedian hailing from New Jersey, expressed the difficulties she encounters in dating due to her strict stance on waiting until marriage for sexual activity and her limited experience in this area.

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“I have only dated nine men – including three serious relationships and all nine men were jerks when they found out about my virginity,” she told the Daily Star in an interview Thursday.

Chandra grew up in a strict household with parents of Indian origin, a factor she thinks has significantly influenced her dating experiences.

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“I was not allowed to socialize and dating was a big no-no,” she stated. “Dating is a life skill and I was forbidden from developing that skill in my teenage and college years. Fast forward to the present day, at age 35, I still have no clue how to date!”

Sonali Chandra, who had her first kiss when she was 26, is using dating apps to find the right person to date and maybe marry. Unfortunately, she hasn't had much luck with these apps so far.

“I spend every weeknight exercising so I don’t feel lonely and I spend Saturday and Sunday nights alone in my studio apartment, which is very depressing,” she candidly confessed. “I go to sleep by 8 p.m. to numb my emotional pain.”

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Chandra, who revealed that she was not permitted to attend prom or reside in a campus dormitory during her college years, firmly rejected the idea of her parents arranging a marriage for her, despite it being a customary practice in her cultural background.

Nonetheless, she maintains traditional values concerning pre-marital sex and is not willing to engage in sexual relations solely to secure a partner.

Chandra publicly disclosed her virginity two years ago when she made an appearance on the "Dr. Phil" show.

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During her appearance on the show, she expressed her frustration about how men seemed to be bothered by her decision to remain a virgin.

“I’m confused and perplexed. I have all these great qualities. Why is it so tough for me to find the one who won’t be scared off when I tell him he would be my first and hopefully only?” she asked.

Still, she remained steadfast in her convictions, declaring: “I would rather remain a virgin and be single the rest of my life than be married to the wrong guy.”

After her appearance on the show, Chandra also participated in the dating show "Five Guys A Week" on Lifetime. However, she still couldn't establish a strong connection with any of the suitors.

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However, there now appears to be some hope on the horizon for the singleton, who has been communicating long-distance with a possible love interest.

Although they live in different cities, Chandra told the Daily Star that they recently met for the first time and they had strong chemistry in person. 

“This man is handsome, ambitious, and a bit older than me – I am so surprised he is still single! I feel like I have known him for eternity, and I felt comfortable around him,” she dished. “He was slightly flirtatious but was completely respectful of my boundaries given that I’m a virgin. He didn’t even try to kiss me.”

“Since our meeting, I have not been able to stop thinking about him,” she further cooed. “However, I have no clue what he thinks of me or when I’ll meet him again, which is heart-wrenching.”

Whether or not he ghosts like every other man, the virgin said the situation has given her a better understanding of what she wants from a relationship.

“I do believe that friendship is the foundation of any relationship and that time will tell what happens between us,” she declared.