Groom Suggests Brother Leave Disabled Wife With Babysitter

The original poster (OP) was supposed to serve as the best man at his brother's wedding, and his wife was also scheduled to attend. Unfortunately, his wife's injuries make it difficult for her to respond quickly or comprehend what other people are saying. She occasionally needs assistance with her eating, such as breaking it up into smaller pieces. She is still intelligent and capable, the OP says with affection.

Both of them went to the rehearsal dinner. After the meal, his future sister-in-law advised him in private that it would be best if his wife went to the second location instead, where there would be a babysitter on duty for kids under 12 who weren't attending the wedding.

His wife was sent to the second location, and the sister-in-law pretended to be doing him a favor by doing so. She assured him that he could enjoy himself at the wedding without having to feed her. He confronted his brother out of rage. However, his brother supported his future wife and said that it was for the best and that he could always go to the second location and see how she was doing.

The OP informed his brother that he was quitting as Best Man since he didn't like the way his wife was being treated. His parents were among those who thought it was appropriate for him to feel furious. Although they did not agree with what the bride and groom said, the parents insisted that it was ultimately their decision and urged the groom to "get over his ego and go to the wedding."

After then, he learned that one of the groomsmen spoke as the Best Man. He received a text message from his brother telling him that he expected more from him. 

The OP responded that he expected more from his sibling. In a lengthy text message, his sister-in-law claimed that he deliberately ruined their special day and ruined their reputation.

Redditors Were Not Impressed With The Bride And Groom

One said: "Ableist and cruel people come out at special events."

Another said: "We don't think she is capable of being a functional adult."

Third said: "They absolutely did treat your wife like a literal child because of her disability."