Guys Are Sharing The Key Lessons Their First Serious Relationship Taught Them

It's more about the thought than the feeling

"That sometimes they love the idea they have of you more then they actually love you."

Sometimes you find yourself putting in more than you're getting back

"If you are putting in more effort than them, don't expect it to one day be reciprocated."

Self care before you can care about someone else.

"The necessity to seek mental health care before it gets bad."

Life takes us in funny directions. Make sure you're taking the same road.

"No matter how compatible in other ways you are; if you don’t want the same things, it will never work out

EDIT: even if they say they might want the same things you want in the future, that timeframe is going to be a lot longer than you think."

Sometimes being miserable alone is better than being miserable together.

"That being in a relationship you don't want is worse than being alone."

Talk. A. Lot.

"Communication is king. Don't sweat the small stuff. Both parties need to compromise, because if it's all one sided, it'll blow out eventually."

Process your stuff and approach the next one with a positive mindset.

"After losing my first serious GF, I learned that life goes on after breakups, pain is only temporary, and tomorrow is always a new day. Learning how to cope with heart break has since helped me throughout all subsequent relationships."

Sometimes love isn't enough. That's just life.

"That just because you really love each other doesn't mean you are a good couple.

Drifted apart and split up after 4 or 5 years together. Still very good friends 20 years later."

Don't start writing your forever until you have some time in the bank

"Just because you've dated for a few months doesn't mean you'll be together forever.

Have fun, be respectful, but don't plan the rest of your lives together if you haven't even finished college yet."

You can't force joy out of someone else.

"Happiness comes from within, not from other people."

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