Here’s What Guys Really Feel About Cuddling.

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Cuddling is a lot of fun for some people. Yes, you read that right. Some people. While there are many different variations big spoon, little spoon, honeymoon hug (when you're completely wrapped around one another, appearing as though you'll never let go), and the grab (when you're just kind of sprawled out and barely touching), for example not all people enjoy cuddling.

If you would really like to know whether or not your partner enjoys cuddling, open up the discussion. If they don't return the same enthusiasm for cuddling, the reason could be as simple as 'it's just too hot.' It could also be as deep as intimacy issues, and that's something that can be worked on.

If you need a little time to build up the courage, here's some information on cuddling to keep you afloat. While we've included some signs to help you understand your relationship, note that they may not apply to every relationship.

Cuddling can help strengthen the bond between two partners.

Sometimes, your bodies just naturally fit together and you feel an equal exchange of energy. It feels warm and magical.

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In addition to keeping you warm, it can also make you happier. When you touch someone, there's a release of the hormones dopamine and serotonin. This can help boost your mood and curb depression.

Continue reading for some signs that your partner enjoys cuddling with you.

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Some of us have aggressive partners and we don't have to guess whether or not they enjoy cuddling. It's clear to us that they want to, because they're outwardly affectionate. If they're not saying it out loud, they're directing the cuddling session.

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Sometimes, they'll naturally embrace you while in bed. Styles vary. While some partners are aggressive, others fall into a cuddling position. Some people won't inch closer until they get really sleepy.

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They whisper sweet nothings in your ear. Okay, this one sounds a bit cheesy but there are people who do and enjoy this, especially in bed. Sometimes it's sexual and sometimes it's romantic. Whispering goes perfectly well with both cuddling and sex, so they may want one, the other, or both.

It's best to learn about your partner's needs and to communicate your own so that both of you aren't constantly wondering what the other wants like some sort of game. How do you do that? Observe and talk about it openly.

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They'll continue to give you affection after sex. If the affection continues after sex, this indicates that your partner has a soft side. There's no saying what their intentions are, it depends on the situation, but they must enjoy your touch.

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Eskimo kisses, or the gentle touching of two noses, is almost like cuddling except with your face. If your partner often showers you with eskimo kisses or enjoys receiving them from you, chances are they love cuddling as well.

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Ever feel like your partner is playing games when it comes to cuddling? Maybe it gets under your skin or maybe you like the chase. Sometimes, a partner can play hard to get because it's in their nature (or the nature of a very flirty relationship), and other times they aren't even aware that they are this way.

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Ever feel like your partner is playing games when it comes to cuddling?

Maybe it gets under your skin or maybe you like the chase. Sometimes, a partner can play hard to get because it's in their nature (or the nature of a very flirty relationship), and other times they aren't even aware that they are this way.

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If this is the case, try taking the upper hand. Sometimes when you date someone, you can get them out of their shell, but note that this isn't true for all cases. Some people that are shy in public are shy in private as well.

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You can also try some other options. For example, switching positions. Women's Health Mag writer Scott Muska asked men how they really felt about cuddling. Here's one answer that provides a different perspective:

"So this is really weird, but I like being the ‘little spoon' a lot. I'm not really sure why, but I do. I bet it looks pretty funny because my girlfriend is tiny, but the heart wants what the heart wants."

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If they complain about the heat, find a way to change that. Some of us have a low tolerance for heat, so don't take it personally. This is true for me. I cannot cuddle in the summer, because it makes me feel like I cannot breathe. We are warm-blooded animals and physical contact will just increase the heat between the two people. Try using a fan, air conditioning, or wearing thinner or less clothing. They just might inch closer towards you for warmth.

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You can also try sharing this chart with them. Who knew there were names for these positions? Do you fall into the habit of any one of them?

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Do our cuddling positions mean anything? Some experts say that cuddling or sleeping positions reflect certain truths about your relationship. For example, Patti Wood, a body language expert and author, says that facing one other while cuddling indicates that your lives are intertwined and that you take care of one another.

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Don't like cuddling yourself? Don't sweat it. Not everyone is a cuddling fiend. According to the same article by Muska, there are even couples who enjoy not cuddling together.

"I'm not a huge fan of cuddling, but neither is my girlfriend, so it works out. She said to tell you that not all women are cuddle fiends."

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If you really enjoy cuddling and your partner doesn't, don't give up hope.

Some people change over time, some don't. If it's something you can work out together, please do. But remember that this takes time, especially if you're dealing with intimacy issues.

Openly welcome the change if it does come but never pressure your partner to do anything they don't want to. In the meantime, get creative. There are plenty of other fun ways to share affection.

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When all else fails...cats it is.

Yes, our furry little friends never fail to give us the company we need. I also recommended puppies, especially if you love cuddling up to the scent of sweet warm milk.