How to Ask a Guy Out On A Date

#1 Plan The Question In Advance

Pick the right place and time for popping the question. If he is in a rush or hurry, a quick question about dating probably won't work out. Make sure you have an opportunity to walk into him in a casual, low-pressure setting. Sometimes it best to lay low and wait until the setting is just right. If you think he is really in to you, then there is nothing to be worried about. A private place to ask is best for both of you, in case he says no.

#2 Have The Date Planned Out Ahead Of Time

You can't just ask a guy to go out and have no clue what you want to do. It works both ways.. you wouldn't want a man to ask you on a date then not have any idea of what is going to happen. Pick something that specifically appeals to the guy. If he loves biking, going to jazz concerts, or eating sushi, ask him to do one of these activities. This will make him feel more at ease and more likely to say yes. Safe bets are a movie, dinner, concerts, or cooking a meal for him at home. Its best if you ask him if he's free on a specific day and tell him your plans and if he likes them there's a chance he'll say yes.

#3 Make Sure You Have An Exit Strategy

Don't make a fuss if you ask a guy out and he says NO. It's not the end of the world as we know it. Maybe he likes someone else, or maybe he was startled and only thought of you as a friend -- either way, you'll get through it. If you approach him after getting up the nerve to ask, come up with something else to ask in case you can tell he's not feeling it. There's plenty of fish in the sea.. don't let it get you down.

#4 Show Confidence And Try Flirting A Little Before Hand

Having confidence when you ask him out will frame both you and the date in an attractive, appealing way, and will make the guy more inclined to trust you and to say yes. Flirting a bit leading up to the big question can prep the guy for what you have in mind. Show him you are seriously into him by texting, calling, and even tease him a little to see how he reacts. These are all ice breakers and should get him in the mood for a date with you.

#5 Don't Overwhelm The Guy By Being To Pushy

Don't over flirt or make it sexual. If you come on too strong, then the guy will immediately feel overwhelmed and like he needs to take a step back. Don't be too shy or too over anxious. Just be yourself, and let things happen naturally. Give him room to breath and don't pressure him.

#6 Don't Hesitate Or Act Shy About It, It's Just a Date

Don't waste your time or his, just ask the question after a few minutes of small talk or flirting. Think of it like ripping off a band-aid: it's better if you just get it over with. Stay as calm and casual as you can, and ask him out in a simple sentence. Say things like "Are you busy on Saturday night?" or "Hey, so, I was wondering if you'd want to see a movie with me this weekend?"

#7 Make Low Pressure Plans In Advance

A perfect low-pressure way to ask a guy out is to tell him you have extra tickets to a show or concert. Pick something you think he'd enjoy, and use that as bait. A group date is always an easy option and provides little pressure for both of you if it's not going as planned.

#8 Find Something He Would Be Interested In For Your First Date

Also, sporting events that he enjoys are a good bet he'll say YES. Find out what he enjoys is a good way to hook him. Asking him out to do something more man-centric will be more appealing and will sound more fun and casual than asking him to go out to a candle-lit dinner. Sometimes you need to make sacrifices, and if that's not your thing, take it like a champ and give it a chance.. he might just say yes and be a good date.

#9 Ask Him Out In Person Or On The Phone, Never Text Him

Get creative if that's your thing. Write him a little note saying "let's do dinner and a movie," or call him on the phone and surprise him by asking him with your own voice. Never text your question, as this is very impersonal and may set the tone for the entire date and, hopefully, relationship. If he says no, then you just say 'thanks,' and hang up, but if you really want to ask the guy out but are afraid to do it in person. That's your best bet.

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