If you have noticed your friend being micromanaged or degraded by an SO-a type of abuse defined as "coercive control", it may be time for a talk.
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#1 Psychologist Lisa Aronson Fontes Tips
Psychologist Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD, shares tips on how to start this delicate conversation.
#2 Give Space
Express your concerns in a nonjudgmental way, then give him or her the floor to continue the conversation.
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#3 Listen
Asking too many questions might do more harm than good. Let him or her pace the conversation.
Fontes says,"Some parts of the story may feel too shameful to share until months or years have gone by".
#4 Leave Advice To The Professionals
Don't be the friend that makes things worse.
Fontes explained,"For instance, many well meaning people tell their friends to obtain a restraining order".
Unfortunately, this may lead to "increased violence" from the abuser.
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#5 Encourage Your Friend To Seek Help
Even if your friend has not experienced physical violence, Fontes suggests they make an appointment with a domestic violence advocate, or a counselor. Offer your support, but remember this is up to them.
